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how to have a conversation?

piggy1401

Hi, I feel a bit stupid writing this. I really struggle with conversations and I know that a lot of autistic people struggle with conversations but I was wondering if anyone had developed any strategies for having conversations? How can I have a long conversation? My conversations last about 2 minutes and then I run out of things to say. I would really like some advice.

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  • I'm part of a philosophy group that meets at a Pub every week. The more interesting individuals who are part of this are always quite good for eventually furthering conversation. I've been going now for almost 2 years and finally feel as though there are a few people now I enjoy meeting for coffee outside of this.

    Conversation is an art - and I'm not interested in perfecting or working out small talk, which is said to be a form of assessing hierarchy  in a group, but actual enjoyable connexion. A little symbolic logic is incredibly helpful, I've found. I will swear by this. After which, Improv classes can help. Or if you have a friend to try out techniques, I'm sure you could find some online. And then sometimes practicing being a bit 'others-focused' is quite useful. I have found learning to ask non-invasive questions can lead to slowly getting to know others and finding interesting humans you'd like to build friendships with. When someone feels as though you care about their well-being and person, they invest back. It's a good technique for learning about another to create a genuine friendship. Conversation eventually follows. I feel as though I have always committed to the Long Game. But it pays off.

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