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Is there some kind of autistic burnout retreat holiday restbite thing in existence?

NAS74213

Hello, 

I have just recently been diagnosed, though there have been suspicions for some time.. 

Basically I'm shattered from the whole process, I was shattered anyway from developing epilepsy (now controlled, I am very lucky) losing job, being on benefits with undiagnosed autism and fun epilepsy, moving house 3 times in 3 years and twice in 8 months ect ect ect the list goes on as I'm sure it does for many of you also. 

What I'm wondering is, is there anywhere, holiday camp/retreat/something where I can go and just be quiet and have someone bring me food but otherwise basically leave me alone? I just need to catch my breath. 

I am not after early morning yoga, hours of meditation, group nature walks, therapy, raw smoothies or anything involving gongs. 

I also don't think I'm in the kind of state that requires I be admitted to hospital with the psychiatrists and such. I do however realise that is where I will end up if I don't manage to catch my breath. 

Also I am pretty penny less due to the benefits.. 

Am I hoping for something that doesn't exist? Should I just go set up a tent somewhere within the deliveroo catchment area? Is the search for a pet unicorn liable to be more fruitful than this endeavour? Do you get one automatically when they send your your letter of official autism? I can't tell you how disappointed I will now be when there is not a unicorn in that envelope.. why do I do this to myself.. 

Back on track! Flotation tank weekends! Anything, seriously any suggestions very greatfully received! 

  • in reply to Puff Pastry Hangman

    form a group ,,,,, u can do it Slight smile

    I am a member of our local meditative walking group. There are 2 sections,, some talking,, and no talking at all

  • I don't personally know of anything like that but it's a brilliant idea!

    Personally I'd love to go camping but while I'd want the feeling of being out alone in the wilderness I'd also like to know there were people close enough that if I fell down a ravine or something I wouldn't be as screwed as I would be out there alone Stuck out tongue

    I know the Scottish guy famous for having Tourettes launched a scheme where he and other sufferers went on trips and stuff but I haven't heard about stuff like that for autistic people.

  • in reply to Rahere

    I agree with this, but a really quiet place so far from modern life did help my mind stop and readjust and become more aware while there. The top of a mountain does a similar thing  ( I mean walking all way up and down not using a helicopter Slight smile )

  • Sounds as if you need to learn some grounding techniques. What's going on is a form of what Pavlov called Transmarginal Inhibition a hundred years back, which we know as overload meltdown. You're rightly sensing a need to switch your cognition off for a bit, wrong to think that meditation's necessarily wrapped up in mysticism. It isn't.

    As an immediate action tool, get some lavender oil. Just a dab, smell it. Great stuff to buy some space.
    My NAS mentor mostly works with kids, and uses a latex wristband on them. This is a subfield of sensory deprivation, alongside floatation tanks: a subgroup of fetish rubberists takes this to total enclosure in a sense utterly disconnected from sexual fetish, but related to what the scene calls subspace, which is simply a portal into meditation, one of many. A US ASD trauma therapist also uses shibari bondage, as it too is an accompanied journey into the same. Accompanied? A psychopomp, a soul guide, encouraging you to release your cognitive issues.

    I now come to meditation itself. I'll immediately declare for full transparency that I'm a non-practicing Reiki Master of zen christian background, kindly note the lower case as signifying I'm not aligned with any Organised Religion because my relationship with the numinous will inspire copy-catting, which can be very dangerous. I don't practice because my service is to God, and not man. In any case, operations like mindfulness work perfectly well without. It's a question of learning how to stop thinking. Not by thinking not to think. Just by letting it all go. It doesn't matter. It'll still be there to pick up when you return. Find somewhere where nothing will intrude, your phone, switch it off. Let peace come, welcome it emotionally. And then return. You don't need massive retreat exercises, although a monitor guide can be helpful. I sometimes find physical reactions can happen too, a leg twitches. That's fine. Five minutes is all it needs - as long as you don't drift off into sleep.

  • in reply to aidie

    Well that sounds lovely! Thank you so much, I knew there had to be somewhere! I will have a look at the link - thank you

  • in reply to NAS74213

    https://www.loughderg.org/quiet-days/

    i got one of these for free ---- and ignored everyone else there   ---- BTW i lived very close to Lough Derg at one point thats how I know of it.

    the people there knew/still know me 

  • in reply to NAS74213

    no they also deal with drug addicts and non-christains as well so no prayers ---- it is very quiet from memory  

    it deals with hundreds of Christains that is for sure.

  • in reply to NAS74213

    Not that I have a problem with the Christians themselves I just wouldn't find that relaxing.. nor any kind of church bell arrangements now I think of it.. 

    Also thankyou for replying 

  • in reply to aidie

    Is that god based? I googled and it looked pretty Christian - I'm not keen on joining in with prayers or anything..

  • lough Derg retreat in co fermanagh . i have been there  a long time ago.