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NAS73792

I will keep this very brief or my fingers will start going up and down again, I don’t understand autism, but I am of the belief I am affected by it. I would class myself as intelligent, but I lack certain social skills. I’ve never been diagnosed but most people I’ve ever had meaningful interactions with, I can at minimum tell you the month of their birth day. I couldn’t tell you what they last spoke to me about though. I’m at loggerheads with myself on how to deal with this, do I go to a GP and get diagnosed, please people that don’t know me….. help

  • in reply to Dawn
    Dawn said:
    It's a nightmare when it means sorting out disputes between bitchy team member and playing politics, I'm not good at it. 

    Been there, done that - hated every minute of it.

  • in reply to NAS73792

    I agree with Plastic that a diagnosis could give you a level of professional protection, not just legally, but you'll better anticipate the pitfalls. If you are promoted to director level, watch the stress. Ideas like energy accounting might help, whether you go for a diagnosis or not.

    As for the people management, it depends on a) how ASC affects you and b) what the team are like.

    I've had good and bad experiences as a line manager. It's a nightmare when it means sorting out disputes between bitchy team member and playing politics, I'm not good at it.  But when it means leading by example with integrity, commitment and fair play, I can carry respect.

  • in reply to NAS73792
    NAS73792 said:
    If I have autism, then does that mean my staff have one over on me?

    Quite possibly - we are often bullied and manipulated - a diagnosis would help you in that case - to either know you're potentially vulnerable so you can take steps to avoid it.   

    If you're going to be a director, I would off-load the dealing with HR tasks.       For everything else, leadership, organisation, compliance etc., you'll be better than normal people and respected because of it.

  • in reply to Dawn

    Thanks Dawn, honestly I’m about to take the biggest step of my life and become a director, but there’s this niggling thing in me to say am I good enough? If I have autism, then does that mean my staff have one over on me? Honestly I’m on cloud 9 but I’m also anxious of the thought that this comes back on me and I’m ridiculed because of it

  • The big fat question is, would it help you to know for sure?

    Possible benefits are:

    • Understanding yourself better, whether they think you meet the criterion or not
    • Getting better access to care or work place adjustments
    • Finding your tribe

    Possible downside:

    • How do you live with the label?
    • Might others take an adverse view of that at work, in the family or elsewhere?

    If the answer is yes, you want the truth, do a few on line tests including the AQ10 used by the NHS, talk to your GP about the results, emphasising why you think you might have ASC and why a diagnosis would benefit you.

    Some folks are happy to self-diagnose of course.

    Personally, I need the truth. But each must make their own decision. Either way this forum is here and will support you.

    If your fingers are twitching over it you might be stimming. It's cool! Let them go up and down all they want.