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Apparently I cannot possibly have Autism because...

Entropy

Hi everyone!

My partner recently pointed out to me that I show a lot of autistic traits so I've been doing a lot of reading about the signs and symptoms and it really does sound like me. I've read so many stories and forums and it all sounds very familiar and I really feel like I can relate. I actually started to feel a bit better and like I understood myself more. I wasn't just "weird" but there could be an actual diagnosis and lots of other people out there like me! However, I wasn't happy to just self-diagnose so I booked a doctor's appointment to request a referral to a specialist... but according to this person there is no chance that I have Autism. 

Apparently someone with Autism:

- Would not be able to graduate from university

- Would not be able to have a job

- Would have speech delays and not be able to talk like a regular person

- Would not be able to be in a relationship

- Would need to live with parents or require a social worker to cope

Apparently, most of what is on the internet is wrong and I'm just seeing these autistic traits because I read about it...

I don't want to start listing all my traits in this post, whether or not I have ASD is a separate topic. I definitely don't think I explained myself well during the phone call (anxiety, brain fog, confusing questions), but I also feel like he just ignored a lot of what I said. Has anyone else had a similar interaction with their GP? I am a little surprised that a doctor could be so narrow-minded and dismissive.  

I don't know where to go from here. I feel really disheartened. 

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  • Well, I have been diagnosed as autistic, by a consultant psychiatrist, and I have 3 university degrees, am recently retired after 36 years of work, mostly in scientific research, have presented work at conferences and symposia to audiences of up to 300 people, been married for 25 years and have never met a social worker (that I know of). I think your GP is a patent idiot!

    PS If you have about £900 available, you can bypass the GP entirely and get a private diagnosis.

  • in reply to Martin

    wouldnt the private diagnosis make the same mistake and assumptions though and thus make you lose your money?

  • in reply to Caelus

    It obviously didn't for me. You do have to do some homework and find a suitably qualified person. My psychiatrist specialised in ASD and ADHD in children and adults. I also had a screening AQ test before I was accepted for assessment and before I coughed up any money. I had a wait of a little over 3 weeks from applying to having an assessment. The average wait from GP referral to assessment on the NHS was 315 days, before Covid.

  • in reply to Martin

    I think many of you are just as pissed off at life as I am.

    I just took a little bit of time (well several decades actually) to find constructive ways of expressing it. 

    Everything out there in normie land is a "system" and just like a hydraulic or other system it can be learned and tinkered with.

    I may get tongue tied and confused about social stuff, but once you identify the levers of control, an Autist is just as capable of pulling it, as any one else.

    I've a tee short my kid bought me and it says "Weaponised Autism"...

  • in reply to I Sperg

    Don't get me started...


    Yes - I pay for the NHS, over and over, and every time they tell me to go away there's nothing wrong with you , just keep crucifying yourself at some job and make yourself worse - so you can pay more tax to pay for us to tell you to go away again...

    I pay/have paid for everything twice over. The harder I tried at work, the more money they gave me to compensate for not having a life

    All because I cannot stand there and say "I deserve this" / "I am entitled to this"

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  • in reply to I Sperg

    Don't get me started...


    Yes - I pay for the NHS, over and over, and every time they tell me to go away there's nothing wrong with you , just keep crucifying yourself at some job and make yourself worse - so you can pay more tax to pay for us to tell you to go away again...

    I pay/have paid for everything twice over. The harder I tried at work, the more money they gave me to compensate for not having a life

    All because I cannot stand there and say "I deserve this" / "I am entitled to this"

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