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Apparently I cannot possibly have Autism because...

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Hi everyone!

My partner recently pointed out to me that I show a lot of autistic traits so I've been doing a lot of reading about the signs and symptoms and it really does sound like me. I've read so many stories and forums and it all sounds very familiar and I really feel like I can relate. I actually started to feel a bit better and like I understood myself more. I wasn't just "weird" but there could be an actual diagnosis and lots of other people out there like me! However, I wasn't happy to just self-diagnose so I booked a doctor's appointment to request a referral to a specialist... but according to this person there is no chance that I have Autism. 

Apparently someone with Autism:

- Would not be able to graduate from university

- Would not be able to have a job

- Would have speech delays and not be able to talk like a regular person

- Would not be able to be in a relationship

- Would need to live with parents or require a social worker to cope

Apparently, most of what is on the internet is wrong and I'm just seeing these autistic traits because I read about it...

I don't want to start listing all my traits in this post, whether or not I have ASD is a separate topic. I definitely don't think I explained myself well during the phone call (anxiety, brain fog, confusing questions), but I also feel like he just ignored a lot of what I said. Has anyone else had a similar interaction with their GP? I am a little surprised that a doctor could be so narrow-minded and dismissive.  

I don't know where to go from here. I feel really disheartened. 

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  • i had a somewhat similar disvalidating experience you may remember my post from a while back - "horrific experience with autistic specialist"

    what this person told you is UNTRUE. autism is primarily a "hidden" difference and there are so many myths about it. autistic people are simply people of a unique nuerotype - different to 95% of humans. they are no "rules" about what an autistic person can or cannot do, since there is no evidence autism is even a condition or disorder. everything people think about autism is completely based on a negative narrative focused on "deficits" comparing autistics to Nuerotypicals negatively, based purely on observations, which are inherently flawed as it's a outside in view rather than an inside out one. that's not to say there aren't deficits, but they are not what defines autism or autistic people. being misunderstood, forced to live a Nuerotypical lifestyle, being bullied, never fitting in, not understanding nuerotypical people - that is the experience of it - along with potentially massive strengths.

    i am doing a degree and am autistic. i have learned to drive and am autistic. i have a unique set of strengths which only autistic people have. 

    elon musk is autistic. bill gates is. mozart is. they all suffered for being different but have achieved great things. my dad is autistic. my mum is autistic. autistic people also suffer for being autistic, primarily due to it being a disability. it is primarily this due to society not understanding, rather than it being a disability in its own right.

    there is no such thing as a "bit autistic" it is simply a completely different brain. yes there are similarities to not autistic people- but they are simply due to us both being of the species homo sapiens.

    if a not autistic person would read about autism they would not notice it Because they are not autistic. because they cannot understand the experience of being autistic it is easy for them to say it's all in your head leading you feeling conflicted. i encourage you to trust your inner "litmus paper". what feels right to you. no reading or thinking about anything can change your neurology - only help you discover it. if you feel you are autistic you probably are.

    online is the best place to find accurate info about autism- websites like nueroclasic, youtubers like the nuerodivergent rebel, are all trustable as they run by autistic people. anything by not autistic people will either be nonsense or somewhat accurate but missing the point. the nhs has some good info about autism which is accurate. 

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  • i had a somewhat similar disvalidating experience you may remember my post from a while back - "horrific experience with autistic specialist"

    what this person told you is UNTRUE. autism is primarily a "hidden" difference and there are so many myths about it. autistic people are simply people of a unique nuerotype - different to 95% of humans. they are no "rules" about what an autistic person can or cannot do, since there is no evidence autism is even a condition or disorder. everything people think about autism is completely based on a negative narrative focused on "deficits" comparing autistics to Nuerotypicals negatively, based purely on observations, which are inherently flawed as it's a outside in view rather than an inside out one. that's not to say there aren't deficits, but they are not what defines autism or autistic people. being misunderstood, forced to live a Nuerotypical lifestyle, being bullied, never fitting in, not understanding nuerotypical people - that is the experience of it - along with potentially massive strengths.

    i am doing a degree and am autistic. i have learned to drive and am autistic. i have a unique set of strengths which only autistic people have. 

    elon musk is autistic. bill gates is. mozart is. they all suffered for being different but have achieved great things. my dad is autistic. my mum is autistic. autistic people also suffer for being autistic, primarily due to it being a disability. it is primarily this due to society not understanding, rather than it being a disability in its own right.

    there is no such thing as a "bit autistic" it is simply a completely different brain. yes there are similarities to not autistic people- but they are simply due to us both being of the species homo sapiens.

    if a not autistic person would read about autism they would not notice it Because they are not autistic. because they cannot understand the experience of being autistic it is easy for them to say it's all in your head leading you feeling conflicted. i encourage you to trust your inner "litmus paper". what feels right to you. no reading or thinking about anything can change your neurology - only help you discover it. if you feel you are autistic you probably are.

    online is the best place to find accurate info about autism- websites like nueroclasic, youtubers like the nuerodivergent rebel, are all trustable as they run by autistic people. anything by not autistic people will either be nonsense or somewhat accurate but missing the point. the nhs has some good info about autism which is accurate. 

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