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Apparently I cannot possibly have Autism because...

Entropy

Hi everyone!

My partner recently pointed out to me that I show a lot of autistic traits so I've been doing a lot of reading about the signs and symptoms and it really does sound like me. I've read so many stories and forums and it all sounds very familiar and I really feel like I can relate. I actually started to feel a bit better and like I understood myself more. I wasn't just "weird" but there could be an actual diagnosis and lots of other people out there like me! However, I wasn't happy to just self-diagnose so I booked a doctor's appointment to request a referral to a specialist... but according to this person there is no chance that I have Autism. 

Apparently someone with Autism:

- Would not be able to graduate from university

- Would not be able to have a job

- Would have speech delays and not be able to talk like a regular person

- Would not be able to be in a relationship

- Would need to live with parents or require a social worker to cope

Apparently, most of what is on the internet is wrong and I'm just seeing these autistic traits because I read about it...

I don't want to start listing all my traits in this post, whether or not I have ASD is a separate topic. I definitely don't think I explained myself well during the phone call (anxiety, brain fog, confusing questions), but I also feel like he just ignored a lot of what I said. Has anyone else had a similar interaction with their GP? I am a little surprised that a doctor could be so narrow-minded and dismissive.  

I don't know where to go from here. I feel really disheartened. 

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  • I took an online Aspergers test, scored quite high, was having all the problems we all know about to a greater or lesser extent, so went to my G.P. He treated me thought like I was trying to pull a fast one, quoted much the same things to me too.

    The fact is, this is a crippling condition (in this society at any rate) and you either fight it tooth and bloody nail or you go under as a child.. 

    As for the social side of things, dating etc. you are playing on a badly tilted playing field already, even if you don't know you are Autistic (like I was for over a half century). Whilst I didn't know I was Autistic I could see that everyone else seemed to have an advantage in understanding, so I went out and bought me a book that explained a lot about how the NT's "think". (I've mentioned it at least twice already, so some will be a bit annoyed perhaps to see me quote it again, but this is a different thread with (mostly) different people so "Games People Play" by Eric Berne, is the name of it) 

    The important thing to remember is that whilst getting to share intimacy (whether sexual or other) is scary, so is flying an aeroplane until you've got a bit of practice under your belt... And Autism need not prevent a body from doing either activity, after a period of suitable training. 

    Just because you have Autism does not mean you are damaged goods, it's more like you just have been shipped without the industry standard interface... But unless you find a way to put yourself out there, you'll miss out an awful lot. 

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  • I took an online Aspergers test, scored quite high, was having all the problems we all know about to a greater or lesser extent, so went to my G.P. He treated me thought like I was trying to pull a fast one, quoted much the same things to me too.

    The fact is, this is a crippling condition (in this society at any rate) and you either fight it tooth and bloody nail or you go under as a child.. 

    As for the social side of things, dating etc. you are playing on a badly tilted playing field already, even if you don't know you are Autistic (like I was for over a half century). Whilst I didn't know I was Autistic I could see that everyone else seemed to have an advantage in understanding, so I went out and bought me a book that explained a lot about how the NT's "think". (I've mentioned it at least twice already, so some will be a bit annoyed perhaps to see me quote it again, but this is a different thread with (mostly) different people so "Games People Play" by Eric Berne, is the name of it) 

    The important thing to remember is that whilst getting to share intimacy (whether sexual or other) is scary, so is flying an aeroplane until you've got a bit of practice under your belt... And Autism need not prevent a body from doing either activity, after a period of suitable training. 

    Just because you have Autism does not mean you are damaged goods, it's more like you just have been shipped without the industry standard interface... But unless you find a way to put yourself out there, you'll miss out an awful lot. 

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