Work issues - seeking opinions

Hello. 

I work for an organisation of 30. I work from home and have done since last March. 

My employer knows I am Autistic and certain accommodations have been made eg not attending work meetings. 

Now, however, my mental health has taken a battering. There are huge changes at work, new phones, new systems, new training, new databases and I have always asked for advance notice and advance sight of the new things so I can get my head around them and not feel so stressed or anxious. This has not happened. 

My boss knows I had a meltdown last year when I was off work for a month. They wanted an Occupational Health report at that time but to this day it has not happened. I have pressed for one as has my line manager but now it’s not happening. 

Recently a colleague resigned. I expressed an interest in the post. So far as I know I was the only person who did. Yesterday, without letting me know in advance, all of us were emailed to be told the office would be reorganised and the opportunity to take the post had been withdrawn. I was upset that, having shown an interest, nobody told me separately which would have been kind and courteous, at least in my view. 

Next week I have a meeting with three managers. On that agenda was the topic of recruitment and my interest in the job. Knowing it was already on the agenda makes things worse as I can’t see what they couldn’t have waited until I’d been told before making the changes known to everyone else. 

I feel bullied into this meeting. I don’t think I’ll get heard and I’m already anxious about it. 

Am I being silly?. I just feel let down. I can’t seem to get across how I feel which is why I’d like a report which they might take notice of. 

Thoughts? 

  • Ditto - Luckily I was in a Union (Unite and still am) and our Union Rep is brilliant. I was in a situation where my M+2 manager wanted me out of the group (doesn't like dissenters) and I told HR (who was pretending to be on my side) that if all else fails, then I would seek a package to leave. Mu Union Rep told me not to attend meetings without him but I got invited to a meeting with HR & my M+1 - described as  "Wash Up Meeting" and was asked if I would take Voluntary Redundancy (no figures mentioned) and I had two days to think about it and not to mention it to anyone. 

    Of course I told my Union Rep and he went ballistic with HR and she had to send out an email saying that there had been a big misunderstanding - yeah right.

    But is shows how being Autistic in meetings a lot of what is said goes over my head and I need some time to analyse and take in what was said and then it is usually too late. That is why it is so important to have someone with you :)

  • What is the actual purpose of the meeting? 

    If you aren't in a union you usually have a right to ask a colleague to be present with you in formal meetings. ACAS is an organisation which offers free advice about work rights, as does the citizens advice bureau. 

  • Are you in a union? They may be able to help and be present in your meeting.