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JT

There are lots of great threads on here about struggles we all have. But I wondered if anyone would be willing to give specific examples of things they feel they got 'wrong', full disclosure, that reflect perfectly the traits you endure day to day that juxtapose with a NT world?

I feel we protect ourselves a lot, and perhaps exhibit a shared form of 'forum masking' in some ways...

...for those undiagnosed, this could be the differential they need?

Respect in advance Pray

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  • I screwed (pre-diagnosis) up by thinking I was like everyone else - I had no idea how different I was until it was pointed out to me.

    I thought that everyone worked hard with a common goal - wrong.   Disappointed

    I thought that hard work gets results and promotions - wrong.  Disappointed

    I had no idea about office politics,

  • in reply to Plastic

    If you go through school as an outsider, it is almost inevitable that you don't have the faintest idea how to do office politics. I reckon I was marked down as an outsider before I even got to Primary School.

    We didn't have nursery schools in those days, and I was too ill some of that time to go out and play with other local kids. (They were actually a really bright bunch!) Let me see. Primary school, two secondary moderns, strict grammar school top stream, a glitch-rich brand new comprehensive school and technical college; all before I left home, having lived in about seven different homes during the same time. and then an endless stream of different dead-end jobs because my face didn't fit anywhere and no one really could be bothered to take any notice. This isn't really an exaggeration: I still get PTSD-type dreams from my education and work. I frequently wake up believing I still haven't fulfilled an academic or work requirement that I actually completed decades ago.  And somehow I remain relatively cheerful.

  • in reply to Senor

    But I would also add that it was apparent from almost Day 1 of my consciousness that I wasn't doing it right. It took another fifty years to figure out why. Yes, I feel almost like part of a lost generation; even though I have always considered myself more of a human than an alien.

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  • in reply to Senor

    But I would also add that it was apparent from almost Day 1 of my consciousness that I wasn't doing it right. It took another fifty years to figure out why. Yes, I feel almost like part of a lost generation; even though I have always considered myself more of a human than an alien.

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  • in reply to Senor

    I think we must be of a similar age. And i have always found the same. I know that i am human. Its the rest of the people around me that i am not sure about! I am a very happy person. And can amuse myself for hours. Yes i like to occasionally talk to someone else but I just couldnt do it all the time.

    Others seem to be hyper social. My ex would say "hay great we are going to a party" and i would have a meltdown at just the idea of it. I would go and have a nice time, for a while, then my "battery" would become flat and i would want to go home. but she would need to stay there until the very last person had gone. Oh, how lonely you can feel at time like that.