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JT

There are lots of great threads on here about struggles we all have. But I wondered if anyone would be willing to give specific examples of things they feel they got 'wrong', full disclosure, that reflect perfectly the traits you endure day to day that juxtapose with a NT world?

I feel we protect ourselves a lot, and perhaps exhibit a shared form of 'forum masking' in some ways...

...for those undiagnosed, this could be the differential they need?

Respect in advance Pray

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  • I screwed (pre-diagnosis) up by thinking I was like everyone else - I had no idea how different I was until it was pointed out to me.

    I thought that everyone worked hard with a common goal - wrong.   Disappointed

    I thought that hard work gets results and promotions - wrong.  Disappointed

    I had no idea about office politics,

  • in reply to Plastic

    After 15 yrs of working in different industries my career has shown me the same. Sadly I feel the common goal is personal progression, but often they don't care about the people around them. I have a particularly tough time with being managed, I've only met one manager that cared about their staff genuinely - and I'm 99% sure he's an aspie. I remain friends with him to this day.

    Thank you for your input guys, so important to hear these examples.

    I don't engage with office politics, and am quite outspoken against playing 'the game'. It has often made me unpopular, but somehow has elevated me amongst my peers in some instances. Seen as being a sort of renegade of sorts, but I literally just point out obvious ways to solve problems. Seems simple to me.

    I've learned about picking my battles a bit more carefully though, as I have always just said it how it is and got into trouble, I now take a breathe and sometimes just keep it in go avoid the problems that have always come up.

    It's tough though because often you can see the answer to something in B&W, and seems logical to me to just say it, but I know the NT culture is based on some bizarre game of facade making.

    I always like to take lunch alone. This is never an accepted decision and makes me seem unsocial, but is when I can recharge a little from the overstimulation.

    I can't handle florescent lighting, bright screens, of any type of distraction behind me.

    I suffer panic attacks in meetings if I can't easily leave, I always sit near the door.so I can if I need to. This causes problems, especially if I ever have to lead a meeting or do a presentation, as I know I can't leave then, so I immediately start to have a panic attack. They are the bane of my professional life, and have slowed my progress. I think my IBD flares due to the stress of this sort of situation

  • in reply to JT

    intestting to hear about your work. In my job HR know me as the awkward one! I am never shy when coming forward. I try and be constructive, and respectful and actually some others look to me to ask the awkward questions. I am still working there after 12 years and thee lots of redundancies so can't be too bad.

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  • in reply to JT

    intestting to hear about your work. In my job HR know me as the awkward one! I am never shy when coming forward. I try and be constructive, and respectful and actually some others look to me to ask the awkward questions. I am still working there after 12 years and thee lots of redundancies so can't be too bad.

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