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Have you tried solitude/isolation?

Einfallspinsel

I saw an online survey where they wanted to find out what typical human goals are (a: if you had a permanent medium-sized income, b: if you got a one-time large sum of money, c: if you could get anything you wanted -- some set-up like that). I decided against submitting my goal after I read what other people had submitted. Everyone else had written a variant of "a house full of friends and family in the city center".

I have this "fixed idea" that everything will be better as soon as I move to a cabin in the mountains: It's quiet, nothing moves, out of earshot and out of sight of people, just forest, I can do what I want... This idea was my motivation to pass school and motivated me to find a job (i.e. earning money to buy the cabin).

It doesn't have to be 100% isolated. If it was, say, a 2-hour walk from a village where one can buy groceries, that would be OK. I just don't want burglars, neighbours, or hikers at my door. I'm not thinking of a fancy chalet here either, rather a single-room stuga. (The only luxury items I can think of would be solar power, PC, and internet.)

Of course maps and property web pages never contain the kind of information I'm looking for (what are the surroundings like?), and I become frustrated and post-pone it. Again.

Has anyone tried living in a remote place for a longer period? How does one find such a place? There seems to be this implicit assumption that solitude is a bad thing and nobody could ever want it...

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  • I lost my very long reply because my session ran out. (Once in my live I don't "select-all and copy", and that's what I get!) Tongue Out

    In short: Thank you for your replies. I agree that soundproofing drastically improves quality of live. (My landlady laughs at the idea though.) Not being around noise in the first place is one notch better though.

    @Easy : Hermits had it good, they had a place in society. I wonder how many hermits/monks/nuns were austistic, and thrived in monasteries? Their families just needed to convince the local monastery that these individuals are naturally devout and have in fact been "silently praying from birth on". My mother (who is much like me) secretly showed me a photograph of her younger self wearing a novice's habit... They didn't take her and she had to marry.

    @Scorpion0x17 : A riverboat? I grew up in a mountainous forest, I honestly never considered boats. A boat fulfils some of the criteria, but my idea of fun is to run uphill among trees until I'm tired. Laughing I'd feel like a caged animal on a boat.

    @Scorpion0x17 / Silver100: I've tried camping, it gets stressful after a while when you realize you are merely tolerated, and anybody can kick down the tent. I want to own the plot (be able to kick others out) and have "something solid and heatable" around me.

    I only need a search engine for places... Frown Most problems could be solved if we had all the data, and search engines for it.

    PS: @Easy I don't dare trying to live in a cabin for a few months simply because I will lose my job then, and I'm very lucky to have this ideal job, I need to make as much money out of it as possible before I lose it.

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  • I lost my very long reply because my session ran out. (Once in my live I don't "select-all and copy", and that's what I get!) Tongue Out

    In short: Thank you for your replies. I agree that soundproofing drastically improves quality of live. (My landlady laughs at the idea though.) Not being around noise in the first place is one notch better though.

    @Easy : Hermits had it good, they had a place in society. I wonder how many hermits/monks/nuns were austistic, and thrived in monasteries? Their families just needed to convince the local monastery that these individuals are naturally devout and have in fact been "silently praying from birth on". My mother (who is much like me) secretly showed me a photograph of her younger self wearing a novice's habit... They didn't take her and she had to marry.

    @Scorpion0x17 : A riverboat? I grew up in a mountainous forest, I honestly never considered boats. A boat fulfils some of the criteria, but my idea of fun is to run uphill among trees until I'm tired. Laughing I'd feel like a caged animal on a boat.

    @Scorpion0x17 / Silver100: I've tried camping, it gets stressful after a while when you realize you are merely tolerated, and anybody can kick down the tent. I want to own the plot (be able to kick others out) and have "something solid and heatable" around me.

    I only need a search engine for places... Frown Most problems could be solved if we had all the data, and search engines for it.

    PS: @Easy I don't dare trying to live in a cabin for a few months simply because I will lose my job then, and I'm very lucky to have this ideal job, I need to make as much money out of it as possible before I lose it.

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