Have you tried solitude/isolation?

I saw an online survey where they wanted to find out what typical human goals are (a: if you had a permanent medium-sized income, b: if you got a one-time large sum of money, c: if you could get anything you wanted -- some set-up like that). I decided against submitting my goal after I read what other people had submitted. Everyone else had written a variant of "a house full of friends and family in the city center".

I have this "fixed idea" that everything will be better as soon as I move to a cabin in the mountains: It's quiet, nothing moves, out of earshot and out of sight of people, just forest, I can do what I want... This idea was my motivation to pass school and motivated me to find a job (i.e. earning money to buy the cabin).

It doesn't have to be 100% isolated. If it was, say, a 2-hour walk from a village where one can buy groceries, that would be OK. I just don't want burglars, neighbours, or hikers at my door. I'm not thinking of a fancy chalet here either, rather a single-room stuga. (The only luxury items I can think of would be solar power, PC, and internet.)

Of course maps and property web pages never contain the kind of information I'm looking for (what are the surroundings like?), and I become frustrated and post-pone it. Again.

Has anyone tried living in a remote place for a longer period? How does one find such a place? There seems to be this implicit assumption that solitude is a bad thing and nobody could ever want it...

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  • I like quietude and long periods of solitude, although I would feel lonely if I did not see people for days on end, and I would possibly see a deterioration in my mental health and anxiety levels. I do need people, but only on my terms, or, in other words, I should be within walking distance of others but I should only hear them and see them when I want to.

    I live in a flat now, on my own, with 15 hours a week support from social services. I always spend the weekend with my family, and I am glad to see them, but it is nice to have my own space and independence. HOwever, I have never lived in a flat before, and my parents house is quieter than my flat;  most of the time. The problem with flats is soundproofing. Every time my upstairs neighbour has a visitor, I can hear the noise, and this stresses me and makes me angry. It is usually a male voice I can hear, and I want him to shut up so I can have quietude. The noise of cars also stresses me - I am near a busy road. I only get stressed by noise if I can't control it, and if I cannot escape from it. I can't block noise out like most people can, although I have become somewhat better with practice.

    I would love to have a one bedroomed detached house, but I cannot afford it!.

    I think houses need to be designed with better soundproofing.

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  • I like quietude and long periods of solitude, although I would feel lonely if I did not see people for days on end, and I would possibly see a deterioration in my mental health and anxiety levels. I do need people, but only on my terms, or, in other words, I should be within walking distance of others but I should only hear them and see them when I want to.

    I live in a flat now, on my own, with 15 hours a week support from social services. I always spend the weekend with my family, and I am glad to see them, but it is nice to have my own space and independence. HOwever, I have never lived in a flat before, and my parents house is quieter than my flat;  most of the time. The problem with flats is soundproofing. Every time my upstairs neighbour has a visitor, I can hear the noise, and this stresses me and makes me angry. It is usually a male voice I can hear, and I want him to shut up so I can have quietude. The noise of cars also stresses me - I am near a busy road. I only get stressed by noise if I can't control it, and if I cannot escape from it. I can't block noise out like most people can, although I have become somewhat better with practice.

    I would love to have a one bedroomed detached house, but I cannot afford it!.

    I think houses need to be designed with better soundproofing.

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