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You just know

JT

There is lots of talk about whether to get diagnosed.. am I, or, aren't I? ...personally, I feel if you quietly consider it long enough, rationally, then, you just know.

  • in reply to Dawn

    That is so very comforting !!!! That I'm not the only one !!!!  

  • Well, I certainly think I've worked it out now but HAVE to have a diagnosis in order to access the help I need.  What I've had todate has been inadequate, even inappropriate, and the more I'm digging into this,... I'm beginning to figure out why...

    I'm finding it really hard to wait for the assessment as I'm a) obviously concerned they might decide I'm wrong and attribute my problems to something else leaving me back at square one, b) I can't move forward until I've got one to base my request for help on.

    It's odd, six months ago, I'd have said anyone who suggested autism was bonkers, but once the penny dropped and I juxtaposed a 101 things that have always been different or problematic....errrr...yes, I think I just know too.  Nothing else seems to adequately describe what I'm or have ever been going through. 

  • in reply to Deleted User

    That is just so true !!! I've had period of trying to avoid using the internet ...because I have to stop myself researching again and again - it fuels my "need to know" about topics !!!  And my poor husband despairs when yet more second hand books pop through the door !

  • in reply to Agatha

    This is the problem with the internet. We have answers readily available thus removing any uncertainty.  There are some things however that you cannot Google an answer for. Uncertainty creates anxiety.  I think this is what causes a lot of modern day anxieties because we are used to getting an instant answer for some things but when we can't for others we get anxiety.

  • Yes, because I NEED to know. 

    And, thats half my problem - I just NEED to know things - and the internet is a shocking distraction for me.  I fight the urge to google every though that runs through my head, I get into looking at all sorts of things - mostly history related because I love things from the 1940s 1950s ..but then I'll suddenly diverge and be looking up Faith things, different denominations views, Bible translations ....or diet and nutrition stuff whether vegan, vegetarian or ..whatever is best!!!!  Days later, still flitting through the various threads in my head ebay packages with books will pop through the door ...and I'll add them to the growing pile of "stuff to read" on a variety of topics - books I just NEEDED so that I could read them and know more!

  • I really don't doubt that I have Autism, its got way too much predictive power than I ever thought I would have and when seen through that lens too much history makes sense, so I agree, at least for myself in your premice of "you just know". However, my questions about diagnosis had nothing to do with personal validation it was finding out people's opinions on how others would react without it, and after deliberation and talking with friends I went with a yes.

    That said I had an anxiety attack last night and the imposter syndrome decided I was making it all up so having official validation will help that rubbish, however, I want it so I can have more justification when people like my dad turn around and refuse to believe me, he's had a lifetime of not listening to me but he has a much harder time refuting with a psychiatry report.