Dating is hard

I'd try something like, "you know I'm Asperger's/Autistic/an Autist (whatever you feel comfortable with), right?";  "Well, essentially it means I'm not very good at doing or saying the right thing, or reading people, but I do know that I really like you, and I'd quite like to know how you feel about me..

If you can't satisfactorily "read" her reaction, I am undecided whether you should tell her that, or simply walk away.

As an autistic man, (I know, in this modern world that isn't neccesarily a correct assumption for me to be making...) the most reliable and sexy trait you have, perhaps, is your ability to be transparent and honest, your girl will either warm to it or not, but at least you will know.

And if you dip out, always after a minimum period of grief, like Chuck Yeager says in Advanced Flight Trainer (The best bit of advice I ever got from a computer game!) "get back up there and try it again"..  

All the times I have dated, I was acting under the delusion that I was NT "but a bit eccentric" so I never used exactly this approach, but the truthfulness and being willing to shut up and let her get a word in edgeways, does seem to be appreciated. (In a normal heterosexual relationship, it is unlikley that the man will get much opportunity to express his own opinions after the woman has learned an approved them, that's what pubs and your mates are for...:c)  YMMV!

In social situations, I come across as a jolly nice chap - women either flirt with me or want to mother me.       My wife says it's hilarious to watch because I can't spot it. 

I had that in my youth, It's hilarious to benefit from hindsight and review the opportunities that I missed.

Unfortunately the old saying "too little of everything makes a man become mean spirited" applies to me, or at least it certainly has for vast tranches of my adulthood.

Right at my core, I believe I am still fairly well meaning and helpful, but since ALL the really horrible events of my life have been caused by OTHER PEOPLE, I don't expect (or get) much joy from "people". My g/f's cat, however, is coming along nicely...  

I Sperg said:

I've driven, flown, ridden, or sailed as many machines as I could in my life

Me too!     I'm trying to arrange driving a bus.      I've driven a trainload of commuters into central London - I just asked nicely and next thing I'm at the controls!     A few years ago, I got to drive the Disney monorail - but that's not allowed any more.

I was looking at buying a digger - I need to do a driveway, some landscaping and paths - like you say, it's cheaper to buy a £5k toy and sort it all out myself - and I can sell the toy afterwards.     I've got a big cement mixer and concrete breaker - in fact, everything needed to build a house!  (and rebuild a car, or anything else I can get my hands on).

I Sperg said:

I've driven, flown, ridden, or sailed as many machines as I could in my life

Me too!     I'm trying to arrange driving a bus.      I've driven a trainload of commuters into central London - I just asked nicely and next thing I'm at the controls!     A few years ago, I got to drive the Disney monorail - but that's not allowed any more.

I was looking at buying a digger - I need to do a driveway, some landscaping and paths - like you say, it's cheaper to buy a £5k toy and sort it all out myself - and I can sell the toy afterwards.     I've got a big cement mixer and concrete breaker - in fact, everything needed to build a house!  (and rebuild a car, or anything else I can get my hands on).