Hi all,
I am having some relationship trauma and I really didn't know where to turn.
My "partner" and I had been together for 3 years and things have been rocky for one reason or another. We have always known that he is on the spectrum and he received his diagnosis late last year when we were going through a period of separation. We reconciled following this and things for the most part had been really good, he proposed over new years eve and despite our health problems, things seemed to be on the up.
Then we went through the rocky patch of a couple of weeks where we were niggling at each other and things became a bit distant, he decided that this isn't how relationships should be and separated from me leaving me devastated. I tried to explain to him it was normal for couples to argue, especially whilst going through a national lockdown and living in very close quarters with 3 children and no time for ourselves but he was set, he had made his mind up and that was that. A week or so later he changed his mind, he had made a mistake and wanted my forgiveness, I just wanted to get back on track so wanted to move forward.
Last week I returned to my home as I felt that would be good and having been recovering from covid I felt a bit stronger. In 5 days, though we have not had any severe issues, fallings out and being happy prior to me leaving, he decided he didn't know if he wanted to be with me anymore. The only thing of note that cropped up was when we spoke on the phone we didn't have anything to talk about, both having mental health problems and also being restricted somewhat anyway on what we can do.
I am just devastated as other than my son, he is my life and I have sacrificed so much for him, supported him and have done so much to try and make him happy. I just don't understand how he can change how he feels like flicking a switch and tear my heart apart. He will not talk, as you can imagine and I will have messages bearing my soul blanked because he doesn't know how to respond. He never would get help to teach us communication as he said we could do it ourselves, it's obvious that's not the case.
I feel like a fool, I am heartbroken and embarrassed and I am torn because a part of me still doesn't want to give up on him but I can't do this anymore.
I am just wondering if anyone can offer any words of advice or if they've experienced anything like this?
Thank you
Alicia x