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Moving house

NAS69281

Hello everyone, 

Just wondering if anyone has ever been in a similar situation? I still live at home with my mum and the past few years have become increasingly difficult for her to keep the family home going especially considering I can't contribute as I am one of the 78% of unemployed people with autism. Anyway she was sadly forced into selling and today we finally moved. I left behind the only home I have ever known (we lived abroad for about 5 years when I was very young but kept the house and rented it out). I've really been dreading it all happening and kind of hoped in some distant fairytale land that some how it wouldn't happen. But now it has and I've struggled so much today. I've been crying every few minutes and I am NOT a crier. Ever. I'm just really really struggling with it all. I'm guessing my ASD and the whole resistance to change thing is playing a part here but I feel like such a wally. People move house all the time and its really not a big deal. I know my friends and family are there for me but I don't feel like I can really talk to them about how much I hate this because there are so many very much worse things in the world. Don't get me wrong, I fully understand, especially given the last year, that things could be a lot worse and I am very grateful for what I do have. I also know that in time it will get easier and I just need to get used to it all but at the moment I'm struggling to see past it all. I spent the majority of my 30 years in that house with the same neighbours, the same everything. And because mum was forced into selling she had to find somewhere quick so our new house is far from ideal and neither of us are particularly excited by the prospect. 

Has anyone else ever struggled with having to move house? 

Sophie 

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  • Such moves are always sad because they are forced. I understand your sadness.

  • in reply to NAS78974

    I've been wanting ro move house for a long long time now, this house is much to big for me and as i'm getting older i'm finding it harder to manage. But just the thought of having to pack and unpach things, and i'm on my own, i think i'll probably end up staying here untill i die.

    This was my Mums house before she died, so when i moved here then it was done over a couple of months, which meant moving most of my things were moved a couple of boxes at a time in the car, which made it so much easier.. But i remember when my Mum moved in here, it was terrible. We turned up with the removal van full of furniture, and the woman wouldn't let us in. She said their new house wasn't ready, her husband had gone  to try and sort things. But if he couldn't they were staying put. We had to leave everything in the garden 'cos the removal men wanted to get away. After hours sitting outside the husband returned, luckily everything was ok and they could move. But it was after midnight by the time we got all the furniture out of the garden. We couldn't even phone the solicitor 'cos it was a Saturday.

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  • in reply to NAS78974

    I've been wanting ro move house for a long long time now, this house is much to big for me and as i'm getting older i'm finding it harder to manage. But just the thought of having to pack and unpach things, and i'm on my own, i think i'll probably end up staying here untill i die.

    This was my Mums house before she died, so when i moved here then it was done over a couple of months, which meant moving most of my things were moved a couple of boxes at a time in the car, which made it so much easier.. But i remember when my Mum moved in here, it was terrible. We turned up with the removal van full of furniture, and the woman wouldn't let us in. She said their new house wasn't ready, her husband had gone  to try and sort things. But if he couldn't they were staying put. We had to leave everything in the garden 'cos the removal men wanted to get away. After hours sitting outside the husband returned, luckily everything was ok and they could move. But it was after midnight by the time we got all the furniture out of the garden. We couldn't even phone the solicitor 'cos it was a Saturday.

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