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Moving house

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Hello everyone, 

Just wondering if anyone has ever been in a similar situation? I still live at home with my mum and the past few years have become increasingly difficult for her to keep the family home going especially considering I can't contribute as I am one of the 78% of unemployed people with autism. Anyway she was sadly forced into selling and today we finally moved. I left behind the only home I have ever known (we lived abroad for about 5 years when I was very young but kept the house and rented it out). I've really been dreading it all happening and kind of hoped in some distant fairytale land that some how it wouldn't happen. But now it has and I've struggled so much today. I've been crying every few minutes and I am NOT a crier. Ever. I'm just really really struggling with it all. I'm guessing my ASD and the whole resistance to change thing is playing a part here but I feel like such a wally. People move house all the time and its really not a big deal. I know my friends and family are there for me but I don't feel like I can really talk to them about how much I hate this because there are so many very much worse things in the world. Don't get me wrong, I fully understand, especially given the last year, that things could be a lot worse and I am very grateful for what I do have. I also know that in time it will get easier and I just need to get used to it all but at the moment I'm struggling to see past it all. I spent the majority of my 30 years in that house with the same neighbours, the same everything. And because mum was forced into selling she had to find somewhere quick so our new house is far from ideal and neither of us are particularly excited by the prospect. 

Has anyone else ever struggled with having to move house? 

Sophie 

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  • I just want to say, I moved house a few years ago and it was the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life. It was a positive step forward in life but not 100% my decision as doing it with a partner..It wasn't the physical actual moving stuff but the emotional upheaval. Little things like the sun aspect being different, or the smells of thr previous owner.The total change to my life..it felt like id been wrenched out of place.I really feel for you and I think leaving the home you grew up in must be so difficult. Take solace in simple things like your favourite TV show or meals. Remember,  change is difficult so be kind to yourself and cut yourself some slack. I'm saying from experience, it may not feel like it now but there will come a time when you look back with a different perspective and realise you are out the other side.  I likened it to gardening..sometimes you have to prune hard but the plant always grows back healthier than before.  You'll learn so much about yourself and realise you are capable of more than you think. Best of luck.

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  • I just want to say, I moved house a few years ago and it was the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life. It was a positive step forward in life but not 100% my decision as doing it with a partner..It wasn't the physical actual moving stuff but the emotional upheaval. Little things like the sun aspect being different, or the smells of thr previous owner.The total change to my life..it felt like id been wrenched out of place.I really feel for you and I think leaving the home you grew up in must be so difficult. Take solace in simple things like your favourite TV show or meals. Remember,  change is difficult so be kind to yourself and cut yourself some slack. I'm saying from experience, it may not feel like it now but there will come a time when you look back with a different perspective and realise you are out the other side.  I likened it to gardening..sometimes you have to prune hard but the plant always grows back healthier than before.  You'll learn so much about yourself and realise you are capable of more than you think. Best of luck.

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