Rules and communicating difficulties with neighbours

Hi

I moved into my current flat just before Christmas. It has a secure communal area that needs a fob to get in and generally feels safe. Each flat has their own shed in the communal area, I was shown mine on the day I moved in. We opened it and noted it needed a new bolt and some of the rubbish from the previous tenants needed to be cleared once the pandemic allowed for someone to help before I could really use it, but was really pleased to have access to one.

Today I noticed a lock has been put on the shed I thought was for me and I have absolutely no idea what to do. I do not know any of my neighbours or who put the lock on. I hate confrontation and whilst I have prepared a note to stick on the shed to let the person know that the shed was for my flat I'm too nervous to put it on the door as I don't know how the person might respond and I don't want to cause problems, I'd just really, really like somewhere to store a bike etc. once I can have a clear shed! In my head the note is letting the person know in a nice way that the shed is for someone else, but I know from experience some people just carry on and react differently.

There is one other shed without a lock on. I feel unable to just 'claim' this as my own, or even open it to check if there's anything in it, as I feel like I'd potentially be invading someone else's space and nobody has told me that I can use that one. It just feels 'out of bounds'. In the same way that an unlocked car doesn't mean I can just start using it.

I'm sorry if it seems like a small thing, it's the first time I've lived independently in this way and it's the first social situation regarding neighbours I've encountered that I just do not understand and I do not seem to be able to work out how to navigate. In my head it was for me to use, now it's not, and I'm just confused.

Is it normal for neighbours to leave notes in these situations? Is it more normal to contact the owners of the building or is that too extreme for something like this? Would most people just start using the last shed without a lock? Is it normal for these things to be a free-for-all? I'm sorry for the questions, I'm feeling a bit baffled.

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  • Hi ! I totaly understand your struggle and would feel the same... I will try to answer to your questions but those are only suggestions so don't take them if you feel like they don't correspond to what you need.

    Writing a note would definitly be taken more middly than going through the property straight away. The problem is that you don't know the reaction of whoever took your shed when they see your note. At least if you go through the property you have like a "protection" between you and your neighbours. 

    What note were you thinking to write exactly ? Also, is there like a person who looks after the flat (make sure it is clear and the rules are respected etc...) ? If there is, maybe that person could also help instead of your property and could answer to your questions better.

    For the meantime, if those words can help, know that things will work out. It will maybe take a little bit of time but it will be ok and you will get your shed back.

  • Hi, thank you for your response. My exact words for the note were: "hello. This shed is for use by flat *my flat number*. Please can the lock be removed and the shed be left available for use?  Thank you". I'm not sure if there are separate people looking after it. I know my rent gets paid to the council. I have sent a text message to the people who helped me move as they are specialists at housing and will know the rules. I have technically left them but hopefully they will understand. As I won't get a reply until tomorrow I think I just need to try and control my fixating mind for a while so I feel less anxious about it!

  • I totaly understand... how did your day end up going ? Did you enjoy your lego ? It is great that you know what to do to help your fixating mind

    Your note does sound really polite Blush

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