Autism and gender identity

I've found that we look at the world not understanding the crazy unwritten rules of NTs so we look for our own way - and we're so unsure of all the rules that we find our own path that works for us..   

I found an awful lot of ASD people drift into the more alternative and flexible lifestyle categories looking for what feel right to them - and also exploring some dangerous practices.

What do you mean by dangerous practices?

People looking for 'a little extra' in the dark corners of sex games.    It's almost like looking for the ultimate over-stimulation.    It seems very common for very high functioning ASD girls to want to be bunnies (rope) and hard bottoms.        Totally relinquishing control.      The ASD guys seem to want to explore materials and enclosure scene - which often is more accessible with other guys.  

I'm not sure what level of detail is permissible on this site but I don't want to frighten the horses. 

Haha I know what you mean. I am sapiosexual and kinky, I would not be happy with average vanilla sex and a normal boring guy. I've been abused many times by so-called 'Doms' who didn't respect my boundaries. It's a risk of the game unfortunately. But yeah we do need something extra to keep us going/keep us interested. I tried to date normal men because they're safe and just ended up getting bored of them.

I'm not judging at all - I'm just mentioning trends I've noticed.      The problem is there's a lot of clever manipulators out the looking for fresh meat - vulnerable people can get in over their head very quickly.   They can be convinced into believing things that the user wants them to believe.

... So what? If everything happens with informed consent let them enjoy what they like.

... So what? If everything happens with informed consent let them enjoy what they like.

Haha I know what you mean. I am sapiosexual and kinky, I would not be happy with average vanilla sex and a normal boring guy. I've been abused many times by so-called 'Doms' who didn't respect my boundaries. It's a risk of the game unfortunately. But yeah we do need something extra to keep us going/keep us interested. I tried to date normal men because they're safe and just ended up getting bored of them.

I'm not judging at all - I'm just mentioning trends I've noticed.      The problem is there's a lot of clever manipulators out the looking for fresh meat - vulnerable people can get in over their head very quickly.   They can be convinced into believing things that the user wants them to believe.