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Aspergers and (not) home-made chicken

marriedtoaspergers

Continuing the foodie theme today - latest blog about life in a chaotic family of 5 with a husband/dad with Aspergers. 

Have a click on the link. Admit it, you're curious about how (not) home-made chicken links in to Aspergers...

muddlingthroughaspergers.blogspot.co.uk/

  • Hi Hope,

    Thanks for your comments - and sorry it has taken me so long to reply. It's proving quite tricky to find the time amidst life with three small children.

    I'm glad you're finding the blog interesting - and hope you continue to do so. It's really just a platform for me to work through my thoughts, being totally new to the world of Aspergers, and hopefully my observations and thoughts can resonate with others.

    Thanks too for your insight into the homemade chicken thing. I see where you (and Ethan) were coming from. And Ethan later explained that he meant the comment as a compliment as the chicken was so nice it tasted home-made, not manufactured (it was actually pre-bought prepared chicken stuffed with bacon and a parmesan sauce). It's just a shame that Ethan was complimenting the shop rather than me, since I'd had nothing to do with the chicken other than put it in the oven. But had had lots to do with the rest of the meal!

    Anyway, sharing my blog and getting feedback like yours is helping me navigate the misunderstandings between someone with aspergers and a neurotypical, so thanks for your feedback!

  • Having read this again, I do not see Ethan's remark as  intentionally critical - depending on how he said it. Did he sound sarcastic?. I can imagine myself saying something similar. Of course, to someone without AS, this sort of comment might seem rude (this had never occurred to me before, but I now understand what you mean having read your blog post). I might say something like this without thinking, because, of course, chicken cannot be homemade in the sense that honey roasted carrots can be. And yet, maybe you had done something to the chicken, like put a sauce over it, or even cooked it from scratch. We on the spectrum often take things literally, and from a literal perspective, taking a raw chicken and cooking it in an oven is home-made cooking, because you did not simply take a ready-prepared chicken and re-heat it. 

  • I am finding this very interesting, as someone with Aspergers myself!