Low self-esteem and loneliness

You sound perfectly interesting.       You're relatively newly diagnosed and it takes a long time to figure out who you really are - your strengths - and understanding your weaknesses.

I created a very large personality because I noticed quiet + odd = bully target but extrovert + odd seems to be an enigmatic magnet for people - and I was open about my hobbies so I attract other closet/undiagnosed aspies - we became a functioning group.    My big personality means that things like 'oversharing' are just seen as open and honest.   I don't do secrets.    I haven't really grown up - I'm 14 inside still.

I didn't get diagnosed until 42 - up until then, I was fobbed off as depressed - and given all sorts of pills over the years.

I'm finding a huge number of undiagnosed aspies in distress because they didn't understand that they simply can't play the NT life - it's too much stress!     They started job that they can't possibly survive in rather than finding their niche.

What do you like to do?   

Yeah I've read some books and articles but I still seem to make mistakes and haven't fully figured out my strengths and weaknesses yet. I definitely know that I am not suited to public-facing jobs or fast-paced office jobs lol.

I used to have a big personality (I used to drink a lot and take drugs) but people found me annoying and weird anyway. 

I like art, I am studying art at college at the moment. I've no idea what I want to do with it yet though.

We are really not suited to dealing with NTs all day, every day.    I was lucky, I was into nerdy things so became an engineer so I've been able to work on my own or with other aspies.

Drinking as drugs make you lose control - not a good combination.

What sort of art - where do you see an application?     Would you sell original art or do you make things?

Plastic said:

NTs trying to be uniformly different

Nicely put Plastic, I've met a lot of them

I can't wait for the next series!!!

Yes I love Rick & Morty!

Omg that looks amazing!

Do you watch "Rick & Morty" - they are forever coming up with weird space creatures.   (It's my favourite)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F6Zy_mLgSNQ

flanimals.fandom.com/.../Flanimals_(book)

i got this as a xmas present because i liked ricky gervais

Haha true re: 'alternative' people - same old boring snobs, just with different clothes. They claim to be so 'woke' yet they have no understanding of autism.

And no, I have not - will watch it though! And no, I am more into drawing weird creatures, animals with human heads etc. I can send you a link to my art, if you want?

violetdr3amer said:

'alternative' people

Usually NTs trying to be uniformly different and 'interesting'..

violetdr3amer said:

I do pretty surreal illustrations of aliens, fantasy creatures etc. 

Awesome!!!!   Have you been to ComicCon at the Excel where all the illustrators are sitting doing their work and selling one-offs and custom pieces at the show?

Have you seen the film "Paul"?   Do all your women have 3 t!ts? 

Yeah that's the plan for after lockdown. Until the not-too-distant past, I used to hang out with 'alternative' people who are heavy into partying, that's all they ever seem to want to do, so I need to find new friends who don't do that. I also want to try new hobbies like board games etc.

I do pretty surreal illustrations of aliens, fantasy creatures etc. 

I think most people would get fed up with a drunk / spaced friend.     Seriously, look for people into the same stuff as you - meetup groups etc. so you'll meet people on your wavelength.       I joined Lego and model clubs to meet mike-minded nerds like me - and they all seem to be undiagnosed aspies,. 

What sort of illustration do you like?   Manga?   Beatrix Potter?   Technical illustration?

Yeah that's true. I stopped because I stopped being able to handle drugs and alcohol, it makes me go a bit nuts and full on and basically have meltdowns, which annoy people and make people think that I'm a nutter. I can't handle them, and seem to get drunk a lot faster than NTs do. But it's a bit of a catch-22, because I have such severe social anxiety that I can't cope being around 95% of people sober. I have a handful of close friends around whom I feel comfortable sober; everyone else just makes me clam up. I've no idea how to talk to people and seem to have nothing in common with most of them. When NTs start talking about their office jobs, mortgages or cars, I find it boring and it makes me feel like a 7 year old.

A lot of NTs in my life haven't been very understanding, and just told me to "try harder" and that I'm using my autism as an excuse. 

I draw and paint. I am not sure yet. After 2 years of college I get to apply to uni; I'm thinking of studying illustration and becoming a freelance illustrator.

Yeah that's true. I stopped because I stopped being able to handle drugs and alcohol, it makes me go a bit nuts and full on and basically have meltdowns, which annoy people and make people think that I'm a nutter. I can't handle them, and seem to get drunk a lot faster than NTs do. But it's a bit of a catch-22, because I have such severe social anxiety that I can't cope being around 95% of people sober. I have a handful of close friends around whom I feel comfortable sober; everyone else just makes me clam up. I've no idea how to talk to people and seem to have nothing in common with most of them. When NTs start talking about their office jobs, mortgages or cars, I find it boring and it makes me feel like a 7 year old.

A lot of NTs in my life haven't been very understanding, and just told me to "try harder" and that I'm using my autism as an excuse. 

I draw and paint. I am not sure yet. After 2 years of college I get to apply to uni; I'm thinking of studying illustration and becoming a freelance illustrator.

Plastic said:

NTs trying to be uniformly different

Nicely put Plastic, I've met a lot of them

I can't wait for the next series!!!

Yes I love Rick & Morty!

Omg that looks amazing!

Do you watch "Rick & Morty" - they are forever coming up with weird space creatures.   (It's my favourite)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F6Zy_mLgSNQ

flanimals.fandom.com/.../Flanimals_(book)

i got this as a xmas present because i liked ricky gervais

Haha true re: 'alternative' people - same old boring snobs, just with different clothes. They claim to be so 'woke' yet they have no understanding of autism.

And no, I have not - will watch it though! And no, I am more into drawing weird creatures, animals with human heads etc. I can send you a link to my art, if you want?

violetdr3amer said:

'alternative' people

Usually NTs trying to be uniformly different and 'interesting'..

violetdr3amer said:

I do pretty surreal illustrations of aliens, fantasy creatures etc. 

Awesome!!!!   Have you been to ComicCon at the Excel where all the illustrators are sitting doing their work and selling one-offs and custom pieces at the show?

Have you seen the film "Paul"?   Do all your women have 3 t!ts? 

Yeah that's the plan for after lockdown. Until the not-too-distant past, I used to hang out with 'alternative' people who are heavy into partying, that's all they ever seem to want to do, so I need to find new friends who don't do that. I also want to try new hobbies like board games etc.

I do pretty surreal illustrations of aliens, fantasy creatures etc. 

I think most people would get fed up with a drunk / spaced friend.     Seriously, look for people into the same stuff as you - meetup groups etc. so you'll meet people on your wavelength.       I joined Lego and model clubs to meet mike-minded nerds like me - and they all seem to be undiagnosed aspies,. 

What sort of illustration do you like?   Manga?   Beatrix Potter?   Technical illustration?