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Useful methods of distraction?

Ang93

Hello,

I have a problem with obsessively looking for reassurance from people I become attached too.

Obviously this causes problems for me and them.

I really want to try hard to overcome this problem, and more specifically my current obsessive behaviour of repeatedly emailing a mental health professional who works with me.

I find that the more things I have going on e.g. going to the gym, appointments in town, going round to a friend's house (i.e. distractions in general) the less I need to engage in obsessive emailing.

However, there are times when I have no such activities available and revert back to anxious emailing.

Does anyone have any ideas of useful things I can do to distract myself from this?

I do find playing games quite good... some solo activities though, e.g. colouring in or listening to music just make me engage more with my obsessive thoughts and worries

  • learn to play chess in Chess.com   its really good way of training yourself to think before you move u can gradually improve ur chess skills over  time there is no rush - u can play a machine/computer or real people online

  • Anxiety, obsessions, difficulty shifting....these are all qualities of an overactive anterior cingulate gyrus in the brain. Which is common in ASD and in generalized anxiety disorders. This is the "gear shifter" like a car---if you will. I have two close people I go to for re-assurance when I need it. I def go through periods. I think no one talks about the major swing upward of hormones prior to period, then the sharp drop off of no period. I'm not saying this is applicable to you....but I've done the math, I get about 1wk of normal hormone chemistry. I really want a hysterectomy, bc I REALLY hate that these hormones affect me so much. Playing games is a good idea....I made myself get into video games & with headphones, it's like stepping into another world for awhile. Does that interest you? Or budgeting for a special movie/show channel subscription. Shifting is not easy & I think it takes something physical...you can't just "stop obsessing" it's not that simple.