What are the chances of my child being autistic if his father is?

There have been a great deal of good comments thus far and I find that I can add little to what has been said. Instead, I would like to place particular stress on some of the points raised previously:

The likelihood of your child being autistic is higher since her father is autistic (assuming that he is indeed autistic) and autism is heritable to some degree, but also intermingles with environmental factors, so nothing is guaranteed. Considering everything though, your child is probably more likely to be on the autistic spectrum than a child, neither of whose parents are autistic.

This being said, each individual is different and follow entirely different developmental trajectories (every autistic person is unique), but, as has already been said, recognising that your child is autistic early on can do a great deal for things like social interventions which can make things like communication and understanding easier or at any rate less problematic.

Without disrespect, it would seem to me more likely that if your child was exposed to violent behaviour or observed you being subjected to such behaviour, they might be more likely to utilise those behaviours themselves in the future and as such, your husband being 'out of the picture' may not be so bad. Although, I am reluctant to make this statement as I know nothing of your situation, but I think it is useful for those who are in toxic relationships (not suggesting that yours is or was).

I do hope that things turn out well for you and I would encourage you to continue posting on this forum - there will probably be a few people with potentially similar situations and a great deal of advice.

I should say that these are just my opinions and I am not a professional, just someone interested in autism.

please reply to Lulu

Excellent reply.    I've watched people training dogs in a hurry and you can see the dog getting confused and the owner getting angry and shouting at the dog - and the dog just ends up confused and uncontrollable - it's the same with children..

a lovely reply. I will do my best to be as patient with my child as possible.

I'm still in the guilt stage where I think I've done this to my 2 and a half year old. But I'm going to be as kind and lovely to her as I can.

With our daughter, we tag-teamed.   Daddy did all the learning stuff, the simple experience stuff - and important rough-housing and taking the p- out of her to round her off - like an annoying older brother - I was also the taxi, the hand holding in a crowd etc..     Mummy did all the emotional stuff - the dealing her problems and dealing with schools and birthday parties, other parents and human-interaction stuff that I'm rubbish at.

If Both Parents have Autism or other learning disability or Neurodevelopmental disorder or both the likelihood is relatively high. It has been documented that parents who have either learning disability or Neurodevelopmental disorder or both have a increased chance of creating a child with the same disorder or different disorder or learning disability.

Parents with autism have a increased chance of having a child with ADHD instead of autism and vice versa. Severity of the child's ability also varies and not always similar to their parents. Complication with the mother's immune system or other biological factors in non autistic mother can increase the chance of child being born neurodiverse. 

Science study varies but some suggest that autism is more likely passed down if the father is autistic, some studies say that women are more likely pass down autism. 

Autistic children are not typically violent, those video you see on social media are from parents who honestly should not be allowed to have children. the best advice i can give you is be patient let your child develop at their own pace, don't force things on to your child this includes food & expectations and don't lose your temper with your child.    

Plastic 

Thank you for your advice, I really appreciate it, the more people discuss these things with me, the more I feel I can do this 

Yes - the earlier you can give the baby lots of varied input, the more balanced they will be - if the child is autistic, they'll need a lot more input from you - you will need to be mum, teacher and a 'Jiminy Cricket' character too giving the child the inside track on the politics of interactions and what people are really doing and what they really mean - continually prompting a pointing them in the right direction and explaining when things go wrong.     Lots of autistic children miss out the early stuff so they are always playing catch-up with their peers..

Thank you for this, this fills me with hope 

Thank you for your input, you're reply fills me with such hope. I'm extremely scared that I won't be able to do my child justice as a mother of limited understanding of autism at the moment. I know I'll learn with time, i just feel so lost right now.

Your son sounds amazing. I hope my daughter can turn out just as wonderfully as your son. I will make sure to show her everyday how much I care for her, her brother and her mother.

This makes me sad. 

Children who are loved and accepted, who are taught good ethics and introduced to art, who are engaged with and allowed to explore (hopefully in a healthy and kind and mindful environment) - tend to turn out well adjusted. When I saw my son was becoming his father at 2 (he threw a book at me just like daddy), I realised I needed to leave his father immediately and put my self in order. The best thing I discovered is that every healthy practice I engage in, my son now engages in (he's 24). I start yoga, a few years later he's interested in it. He's now buying his own self-help books and when he asks for guidance or advice, I've already done my home work. Seek wisdom, Take care of you first, and you will find it easy to be self-sacrificial toward your child who will in turn adore and respect you all the more for it. Xx

the earlier the diagnosis the better for any autistic child  --- thats a general pattern found in studies.  early intervention has been shown to really help autistic children    

at a guess 2-3%  based on data from USA ----- or 2-3 in a 100 women like u would have an autistic child .

remember i am an amateur basing my info on googling the internet

also do u have any brain/neurology issues eg dyslexia, ADHD, anxiety depression

One in 100 children in the UK have a diagnosis of autism spectrum disorder so 1%  is the base

i would need to know which country