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Fear

JT

I seem to develop fear about so many things. Most of my fear comes from concern about what others think of me, colleagues or old friends, so I cut them out of my life to protect myself. This has meant I've been masking in social situations for 30 years and now I don't know how to be myself in the company of others. The biggest fear atm is the idea of a NT wedding, all the different people I know in one place with all the focus directed at me & partner. Do you feel the same? What would a ND friendly wedding consist of I wonder? How can I orchestrate an event I actually want to attend, because atm the groom would be a no-show.

Today I'm due to have my covid jab, so I am awake at 4am in fear of that experience. Worried I will be the one who gets really sick from it because I have IBD as well. Have you had yours yet?

Why am I so afraid of new experiences when I'm not sure if the outcome? It's torture.

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  • Had my jab a few weeks ago. My arm ached a bit for a day or two afterwards. My biggest discomfort was having to sit under the florescent lights in post-jab room the vaccine center for 15 minutes while they made sure I didn't have an adverse reactions. I never thought to take sunglasses.

    If it's any help there's an excellent page on the Crohn's and Colitis UK website on the vaccine.

    https://www.crohnsandcolitis.org.uk/news/latest-coronavirus-vaccine-for-people-with-crohns-or-colitis

    That whole fear of new experience is, as I understand it, a concept called the "intolerance of uncertainty", which basically means ND's are more sensitive to fears about outcomes in ambiguous or uncertain situations - and are more likely to consider a negative outcome. A lot of information about this is still flapping around in academic circles and is a relatively new area of research. Newcastle University in the North East is one of the institutions looking at this if you wanted to reach out to them (I keep meaning to, but my plate is pretty full with other things at the moment).

    On the whole wedding front - out of my experience there.  Wishing you the best of luck.

    E

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  • Had my jab a few weeks ago. My arm ached a bit for a day or two afterwards. My biggest discomfort was having to sit under the florescent lights in post-jab room the vaccine center for 15 minutes while they made sure I didn't have an adverse reactions. I never thought to take sunglasses.

    If it's any help there's an excellent page on the Crohn's and Colitis UK website on the vaccine.

    https://www.crohnsandcolitis.org.uk/news/latest-coronavirus-vaccine-for-people-with-crohns-or-colitis

    That whole fear of new experience is, as I understand it, a concept called the "intolerance of uncertainty", which basically means ND's are more sensitive to fears about outcomes in ambiguous or uncertain situations - and are more likely to consider a negative outcome. A lot of information about this is still flapping around in academic circles and is a relatively new area of research. Newcastle University in the North East is one of the institutions looking at this if you wanted to reach out to them (I keep meaning to, but my plate is pretty full with other things at the moment).

    On the whole wedding front - out of my experience there.  Wishing you the best of luck.

    E

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