My husband and I really want to adopt. I'm considering getting a diagnosis for my own autism, but I'm worried.
It could be a real help in being questioned by social workers. I would have a diagnosis to show them and ask them to give us the questions the day before so I can think of fair examples to give them, and at panel the same thing. We tried before, and the social worker was so sure we'd get through that she lined up a child before we were approved. Then panel happened and we didn't get through. Of course I was coming up with perfect answers the next day, and the social worker didn't get why I hadn't been able to think on the spot. It was heart breaking honestly.
On the other hand, they might be really close minded about ASD and write us off as incapable because I have autism. I understand that they see the opposite a lot, where parents can't look after their kids due to their own additional needs. We're not only capable, but I find I can mimic parenting books easier (I think due to my autism) and I can honestly say my kids have NEVER had a time-out and have always been listened to and helped through problems.
So my question is, has anyone had a diagnosis and got through the adoption process? Or any insight to share on this?
