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Empathy Weirdness?

DjenTeaLlama

Hey I'm new to this forum, and I'm just super interested to find out how other people present their empathy. I have deep intense empathy for everyone all the time. That's why I'm a progressive liberal "snowflake" lol and I cry sometimes just thinking about the struggles of other people. That being said, in my personal life I find myself almost completely incapable of feeling genuine empathy or caring at all about my own friends and family's problems. Even if a friend is going through a hard time that I myself can relate to I find myself not really caring about what they are saying or their struggles and find myself just responding the way I assume I'm supposed to but really only thinking about how I wish the conversation would end but it can't because now I've opened the door for someone to be talking about their own struggle and it would be rude to stop talking about that subject. It's a little bit of selfishness I guess? And I find myself only wanting to talk about my own struggles that their struggles remind me of. I don't know I guess I'm a selfish weirdo? Why is it that I sob uncontrollably hearing stories about people of color being shot by police or watch videos of people going through really hard times and am able to find deep, intense (many times hyper intense) empathy for complete strangers but when it comes to friends or associates or family even I can't seem to find actual genuine empathy and care? Is this something anyone else struggles with? I'm literally DYING to know. #SomeonePleaseRelateToMe lol

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  • DjenTeaLlama said:
    Why is it that I sob uncontrollably hearing stories about people of color being shot by police or watch videos of people going through really hard times and am able to find deep, intense (many times hyper intense) empathy for complete strangers but when it comes to friends or associates or family even I can't seem to find actual genuine empathy and care? Is this something anyone else struggles with? I'm literally DYING to know. #SomeonePleaseRelateToMe lol

    Basically we use a different emotional frequency than vast majority of other people, so we tend to get less according experience using our emotional apparatus with others ~ who continually share emotionally facilitation, intellectually identification and experiential affirmation with each other as a matter of course ~ in order to form contrasts and systems of comparison, involving linguistic patterns consisting of sounds, words and sentences and behavioural routines consisting of anything from tragic to comedic gestures, expressions and narratives.

    So the more this happens for us, our ranges of emotional facilitation, intellectual identification and experiential affirmation become more evenly integrated through our 'sensory~social' repertoire, and reciprocal interactions become progressively more viable and therefore equally as much facilitative.

    So the more monologues we share with others the more experienced we become in having dialogues, sort of thing.

    Or if Aspies were like Normies and Normies were like Aspies in proportional terms, we would not be the ones having the empathy and cognitive glitches regarding our approach to things ~ as it would by default be the majority consensus, and therefore common sense and easy to relate to for us.

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  • DjenTeaLlama said:
    Why is it that I sob uncontrollably hearing stories about people of color being shot by police or watch videos of people going through really hard times and am able to find deep, intense (many times hyper intense) empathy for complete strangers but when it comes to friends or associates or family even I can't seem to find actual genuine empathy and care? Is this something anyone else struggles with? I'm literally DYING to know. #SomeonePleaseRelateToMe lol

    Basically we use a different emotional frequency than vast majority of other people, so we tend to get less according experience using our emotional apparatus with others ~ who continually share emotionally facilitation, intellectually identification and experiential affirmation with each other as a matter of course ~ in order to form contrasts and systems of comparison, involving linguistic patterns consisting of sounds, words and sentences and behavioural routines consisting of anything from tragic to comedic gestures, expressions and narratives.

    So the more this happens for us, our ranges of emotional facilitation, intellectual identification and experiential affirmation become more evenly integrated through our 'sensory~social' repertoire, and reciprocal interactions become progressively more viable and therefore equally as much facilitative.

    So the more monologues we share with others the more experienced we become in having dialogues, sort of thing.

    Or if Aspies were like Normies and Normies were like Aspies in proportional terms, we would not be the ones having the empathy and cognitive glitches regarding our approach to things ~ as it would by default be the majority consensus, and therefore common sense and easy to relate to for us.

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