I'm leaving the forum soon, just saying fairwell! (Mark - Nichemarket)

Hey folks,

I'm taking a break from the forum. I'll stay on a little while to complete engaging with the threads I'm active in, but will try and avoid looking at new ones. So the plan is to taper down, for now at least.

It's been great. I've learnt so much, it's validated me in my version of autism, I've understood stuff, felt connected to people, helped me process things, and helped me see that there are other autists very similar to me.

I'm stepping back initially cos i was getting a bit addicted, especially being here in the morning before, instead of, going to work. And writing answers takes time, and in my aspie way i struggle to leave conversational threads unanswered. But I also seem to have been pathologising my autism a bit, and have got a bit overwhelmed by the quantity of insights. In a way a mark of the quality of engagement and input recently. I think I'm going to focus on the key aspects that affect me, my shutdowns, my difficulty with flirting and getting into relationships, and how I go about exhausting myself. I'm also finding lockdown has provoked a lot of thinking in me to deal with, and I'm seeing Mr Great Guy again quite regular and need to think and work that through instead of distracting myself.

Something I've done which I think some others do is to look out for posts in the previous days that haven't got an answer and to reply, just to help people be and feel included. I won't be doing that now so it'd make me happy if others of you looked out for that.

As I said, I'll still be here for a while, but wanted to say a proper goodbye rather than skulk off (like i do in NT world;>). It'll be sad not engaging with those I've got to know, I hope you all fair well in aspie life.

xx.mark

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  • The problem of pathologising ourselves is something that I have become aware of recently. I see to be overanalysing myself all the time. This probably is normal before assessment but it is tiring too. 

    Thank you for saying goodbye for now. I also normally just disappear too! 

  • Yeah, I've got to overthinking and now I need to get on with doing. I think I know my problems and have info on how to try and overcome them. I feel I'm making progress. It's been a fun special interest discovering different thinking and that others share this, but time to stop analysing what's not a problem. It's come in waves the overthinking, inc now six months on. Others have said 1-2 yearspost diagnosis for it to settle.

    Its been good having you join recently!

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  • Yeah, I've got to overthinking and now I need to get on with doing. I think I know my problems and have info on how to try and overcome them. I feel I'm making progress. It's been a fun special interest discovering different thinking and that others share this, but time to stop analysing what's not a problem. It's come in waves the overthinking, inc now six months on. Others have said 1-2 yearspost diagnosis for it to settle.

    Its been good having you join recently!

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