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Job decisions

Pheobebuffay

How does everyone make big decisions about their job? I feel like I’m not enjoying my current job. It has kind of become a new fixation of mine to look for another job. It’s turning into a pattern whereby I see a new job I think I could do, I overthink whether I should apply for it or not, the closing date arrives, I talk myself out of applying. Then days down the line I really regret not applying! This has happened several times now. There is also something I am interested in applying for which would give me a more enjoyable higher paid job, but in order to apply I would have to ask my boss to agree to a secondment, and even the thought of asking her is putting me off. If she says no, it makes me seem like I don’t want to be in my job and it could make things awkward for me. Also even if she says yes there is no guarantee I would get the job? My head is in bits with it all! 

  • That’s a good way of looking at it, thanks Blush 

  • Most of the time I've just leapt into unemployment and then started looking for a job. I just don't have the energy to job hunt whilst working.

    It sounds like you've some inertia on getting round to filling application forms in. Fill them in, get offered the job, negotiate the best wage and conditions you can, and then that's the moment to decide to change jobs or not.

    I use a framework of:

    This is what I want; this is what even better looks like; this is the bare minumum I can put up with; and this is what life looks like if I can't get my bare minimum (ie the alternatives I have). This brings clarity to my thinking and can motivate me.

    Asking your boss is a separate question. It's a negotiation. You can use the above framework; then think it through from her perspective; then work out how you're going to persuade her to say yes. Basically she either needs to trust you'll come back wiser for it and stay; or realise she'll lose you permanently if she says no but there's a chance you'll come back if she says yes; or think it's good for the organisation for you to grow.