Autism & house keeping

yep i've got two there rooms are tips can't see the floor most of the time .

Yep, I always plan my meals ahead then online order.

I've had occasions where I've had enough food in fridge and cupboards to make an number of meals and just stared at them both because I can't figure out what to eat. 

I need clean surfaces to cook. I wash as I cook so it's mostly or done before I eat. I need bullet points, order, nothing on the walls... this seems to be a more aspie trait maybe. For me, it's because there is SO much constantly in my head I need an ordered world. 

glad you felt satisfied with your cleaning... i'm at the point if i don't want to do something, it's an issue. i guess the trick is finding the things one is good at.

Timetables really help me - I log everything I need to do in a diary and have a weekly food plan which I order online, so then I know that if I forget something, it's written down somewhere. If I've fallen behind a bit things can get messy, but staying with the timetable usually works (plus diaries can be really fun to keep with stickers, post-its etc!)

My brother is very tidy, very very. Me on the other hand cluttery, un organised even though i really do try lol i have my little obsessions that take over the place. im still learning to put everything away 

For me having a place where everything goes and tidy after I have made a mess makes my life a tad easier but if I leave it I forget it and it becomes overwhelming 

Good on you that you've done the basement! I had a strangely productibe cleaning day a week ago, enjoyed it and fekt very satisfied. I'm going to try and replicate it!

This autistic peep is not a tidy peep. When it comes to houses, paperwork, garden-keeping I let things flourish.

Although there does come a point when things start looking a bit derelict. It's then that I make my move. Until then I plan a lot for my next clean. Usually that's an acknowledgement that dust (or paper, or foilage) is piling up a bit, but not piling up enough to do anything about it. 

I'll probably never touch my garden. The local wildlife loves it.

there's one of me... good at cooking and cleaning dishes, shopping for food. bad at diy, mopping, vacuuming, garden, organizing, paperwork, etc. i'm trying to organize, though, and have recently organized my basement. i'm finding, finally after a lot of help, i can kind of organize now, although cleaning itself is a drudgery. 

so i avoid cleaning, pretty successfully. i can't have people in my home, though. too embarassing.

I love ordering and tidying, but can't get round to anything else: dishes, garden/jungle, paintwork, mold, DIY, etc. My best AS mate is the opposite, all the jobs done but total chaos. My other AS mate washes the saucepans etc before sitting down to eat, that's how visciously on top of everything he is. Then two others aren't on top of the jobs or the tidying, but know whete everything is. They've def got Executive Functioning problems, one wants to change but knows she can't, the other sees no problem at all, in fact is perplexed anyone thinks differently!

Ahh, you're just like one of my longest standing mates!

I have experience untidy and unkempt households.

People regard this as normal 

Entropy is the natural way. 

my house is a pigsty. even a flock of pigs came by, they went nope, too disgusting. i'm totally aspie. oh, an i don't like to bathe. that seems to be a common aspie habit (no offense). oh, and my clothes, i toss 'em on the floor when i go to bed, then when i wake up i get back into them. 

and my bathroom and kitchen? oh, i don't mop. i occasionally run a broom around. 

It's nothing to do with laziness. I used to think that about myself. I'm still just learning about it, but I believe it's due to Executive function? Someone with more experience may be able to offer better insight.

For me, I need to make a plan, work out the steps and then work uninterrupted. Take hoovering as an example. I live with my folks. Usually they go to a local community farm on a Saturday morning. I wait until they leave the house and then I come down and hoover. That is my plan. Every Saturday morning. I have a routine with the hoovering that allows me to reach the whole house and then I can move onto the next task that I've set myself (I like to get jobs out of the way first thing so I can enjoy my weekend). If they don't go out, I wait, and I wait, then I get more frustrated because I'm no getting things done. It sounds easy, and now that I'm beginning to understand why, I'm able to work around it, but it's not like you can't be bothered. It's not as simple as that. 

You need to figure out what works for you. Your Dad accusing you of being lazy, is not helpful to that process. It's only going to make you more stressed and less able to get things done.

I live in a house with 2 other people - I seem to be responsible for all maintenance, painting, fixing things, projects, lifting and shifting.      I can 'see' all of the marks, damage, paint chips, scratches and dirt.

The two other people seem to think it's their responsibility to break everything or misuse it or drown it in water or leave damp things on it or to pile things up in a cold corner to cause damp and mould or to lean or hang on cabinet doors so they don't sit straight or to use the hoover as a battering ram / paint removal tool.

Even things like jingling keys against the front door to damage the finish around the lock or let doors slam to damage the locks.

I'm losing my mind.    

Oh ok fair enough would they kool

I wich thats wat my messynese was

Some people live in an organised chaos.  Where to outsiders it looks like a total mess, but to the individual concerned, they know exactly where everything is and are happy with the way things are.

Coz my dad would say its pure laziness on y i dont keep up with me house work