Autism & house keeping

I'm a bit of both. I like order but when I'm overwhelmed, it takes a lot of effort to get things done. I also struggle to work around the people I live with. For example, I struggle to hoover unless they are out of the house.

I like order with certain things like how clothes should be in draws

But wen it comes to house work i struggle with it especially the washing up & keeping my room tidy 

I like order with certain things like how clothes should be in draws

But wen it comes to house work i struggle with it especially the washing up & keeping my room tidy 

It's nothing to do with laziness. I used to think that about myself. I'm still just learning about it, but I believe it's due to Executive function? Someone with more experience may be able to offer better insight.

For me, I need to make a plan, work out the steps and then work uninterrupted. Take hoovering as an example. I live with my folks. Usually they go to a local community farm on a Saturday morning. I wait until they leave the house and then I come down and hoover. That is my plan. Every Saturday morning. I have a routine with the hoovering that allows me to reach the whole house and then I can move onto the next task that I've set myself (I like to get jobs out of the way first thing so I can enjoy my weekend). If they don't go out, I wait, and I wait, then I get more frustrated because I'm no getting things done. It sounds easy, and now that I'm beginning to understand why, I'm able to work around it, but it's not like you can't be bothered. It's not as simple as that. 

You need to figure out what works for you. Your Dad accusing you of being lazy, is not helpful to that process. It's only going to make you more stressed and less able to get things done.

Coz my dad would say its pure laziness on y i dont keep up with me house work

Tidy*

Oh ok fair enough 

Thanks for the advice 

Ill give it ago

So it normal to get autistic peeps that find it hard to keep a house tide

I discovered that the best way to wash up, is to group the bits that need to be done and start with the cutlery, which always seems the most numerous. After that, I work through from cleanest to dirtiest. That generally means it's glasses, bowls, plates, and then pots and pans. If the water is too dirty, or I don't have any space on the drainer, I rinse whatever is left and put it aside for the next time I wash up. That way, there is less to do as it's just washing in clean, hot water.

As for tidying your room, The easiest way is to aim for ten minutes, or choose one area. Setting a time frame or a location breaks the task down. If you choose to carry on afterwards? Great. But 10 minutes is easy to fit in and you can achieve a lot.

There are lots of little ways but I find that little and often builds in the habit and makes it easier in the long run.