Hi all, my ex who has ASD, ended our relationship. We had a discussion to try again, but unfortunately it only lasted for 5/6 days and he ended it again. He said he doesn’t love me anymore, and doesn’t feel anything towards me - I cried in front of him and he said he doesn’t feel anything - he used to get upset and/or comfort me when I was like this.
He is having a burnout (if that’s the right thing?) where he has said he doesn’t feel anything, he just feels numb and keeps zoning out even when he is at work. Last year he went through a few stressful events, of which I was there all the way through, although this year, I have gone through stressful events and have unintentionally took some of this out on him.
Due to these stresses, we were both getting into arguments over silly little things, and on a few occasions we had raised voices at each other (I know I should not have done this but I didn’t really think about the after effects).
I would just like any advice from either people who have ASD, how they coped and did they get feeling and their relationship back, or was it then end and you remained friends, or if you have been through a breakup with a person with ASD. Any information such as what I can do, how long it took for you to sort things out etc would be great.
I love him to bits and don’t want what we had to end, but he just doesn’t feel the same and I’m struggling to understand why he has gone from one end to the other, which is why I’m trying to do everything I can, such as learning more about autism, giving him space but still trying to connect a little bit to resolve this.
thank you
