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I need some guidance.

MorganCarson

Hello my name is Morgan. I am 26 and I have ASD. 

I was diagnosed back when i was 22 which isn’t surprising as I am female and it took many years to get the diagnosis. Once i got the diagnosis, that was it. I didn’t get offered much help or guidance and was quite confused as where to go from there. 

I am in a new relationship and she’s really good for me and helps me try and understand myself.

I have recently been having meltdowns more often and when this happens i tend to i smack my head off walls which resulted me being admitted to hospital last september as i caused a hemiplegic migraine. On one of my meltdowns I also cut my leg out of frustration and when my girlfriend was trying to take the sciSsors from me I cut my face accidentally but i don’t remember doing this  

My life took a pretty big change as I was in a previous relationship where i was engaged and was moving to to another country but with the pandemic and all it didn’t work out and it took breaking up with this person to see how much they were controlling me. 

I just need help. I need an outlet. I spoke to my GP and they cannot offer counselling or much else at the moment as there is an 8 month waiting list that i am on since July last year and they got in touch with me this week to say it’s still 8 months from now.

I have applied for PIP in december (due to my ASD, ADHD, Depression, anxiety and IBS) to see if I can get that and then i could possibly pay for counselling. I do have a job but due to how i’m feeling at the moment it’s never a sure thing  

I just feel so mentally crippled. My life will never be ‘normal’ i have obsession over things, I have huge problems with intimacy, I don’t understand when people are joking and lately it’s just all getting me down and it’s so hard because i can’t even go out because of lockdown and all the change is just driving me close to crazy  

Does anyone at all know any help i can get? I’m so desperate Sob

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  • Hi, I'm new, but so understand how you feel - I'm over twice your age and I've made it this far you can really achieve - everyone here understands - try living 50+ years without knowing whats going on!!!

    1, You are NOT alone - unless you want to be - everyone is here when you need them

    2. You are NOT crazy youre fine, you just need to find a strategy - it really is OK - crazy people live their lives without thinking what theyre doing!!! all youre doing is challenging yourself to find a way - pretty sure that aint crazy.

    3. You definitely have wonderful talent in something - we get angry when we care and cant fix something - its just frustration - this shows you care about whatever it is - all youve got to do is identify it, work out what the best thing to do is and use that as a strategy - so easy to type into a forum but it comes - believe me

    4. Order is good, so write a list - what are you worried about on one side, and what you can do about it on the other - if the what can i do about it column is blank, put a big line through it and forget about it forever - then all you're left with is the to do list!

    5. Lockdown - this is where you can really go for it - its a massive opportunity because we can achieve things if we focus - we dont need to go out - get yourself nice and peaceful, think about what you want to be or achieve - this can take days - don't rush it. Get fitter? Sort the house out, learn something - a language maybe - once you've got something, then you are all good - you know how an obsession can become a passion - just find out what it is.

    Honestly, please believe me you're going to be fine - find your calm and use what you think your weaknesses are as strengths

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  • Hi, I'm new, but so understand how you feel - I'm over twice your age and I've made it this far you can really achieve - everyone here understands - try living 50+ years without knowing whats going on!!!

    1, You are NOT alone - unless you want to be - everyone is here when you need them

    2. You are NOT crazy youre fine, you just need to find a strategy - it really is OK - crazy people live their lives without thinking what theyre doing!!! all youre doing is challenging yourself to find a way - pretty sure that aint crazy.

    3. You definitely have wonderful talent in something - we get angry when we care and cant fix something - its just frustration - this shows you care about whatever it is - all youve got to do is identify it, work out what the best thing to do is and use that as a strategy - so easy to type into a forum but it comes - believe me

    4. Order is good, so write a list - what are you worried about on one side, and what you can do about it on the other - if the what can i do about it column is blank, put a big line through it and forget about it forever - then all you're left with is the to do list!

    5. Lockdown - this is where you can really go for it - its a massive opportunity because we can achieve things if we focus - we dont need to go out - get yourself nice and peaceful, think about what you want to be or achieve - this can take days - don't rush it. Get fitter? Sort the house out, learn something - a language maybe - once you've got something, then you are all good - you know how an obsession can become a passion - just find out what it is.

    Honestly, please believe me you're going to be fine - find your calm and use what you think your weaknesses are as strengths

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