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I need some guidance.

MorganCarson

Hello my name is Morgan. I am 26 and I have ASD. 

I was diagnosed back when i was 22 which isn’t surprising as I am female and it took many years to get the diagnosis. Once i got the diagnosis, that was it. I didn’t get offered much help or guidance and was quite confused as where to go from there. 

I am in a new relationship and she’s really good for me and helps me try and understand myself.

I have recently been having meltdowns more often and when this happens i tend to i smack my head off walls which resulted me being admitted to hospital last september as i caused a hemiplegic migraine. On one of my meltdowns I also cut my leg out of frustration and when my girlfriend was trying to take the sciSsors from me I cut my face accidentally but i don’t remember doing this  

My life took a pretty big change as I was in a previous relationship where i was engaged and was moving to to another country but with the pandemic and all it didn’t work out and it took breaking up with this person to see how much they were controlling me. 

I just need help. I need an outlet. I spoke to my GP and they cannot offer counselling or much else at the moment as there is an 8 month waiting list that i am on since July last year and they got in touch with me this week to say it’s still 8 months from now.

I have applied for PIP in december (due to my ASD, ADHD, Depression, anxiety and IBS) to see if I can get that and then i could possibly pay for counselling. I do have a job but due to how i’m feeling at the moment it’s never a sure thing  

I just feel so mentally crippled. My life will never be ‘normal’ i have obsession over things, I have huge problems with intimacy, I don’t understand when people are joking and lately it’s just all getting me down and it’s so hard because i can’t even go out because of lockdown and all the change is just driving me close to crazy  

Does anyone at all know any help i can get? I’m so desperate Sob

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  • Hi, Morgan: Blush

    I’m dictating this with dictation software, so please excuse any spelling mistakes or words that seem completely out of place. :-) Just sipping coffee as I sit here with my little dog and my heart goes out to you after I read your post.

    Thanks for your post and your total honesty in it. I can’t speak for anyone else but I just want you to know that your post, to me, is exactly the reason we have this community and can share and gain support from others. I hope you’re feeling better today and that you’re getting lots of kitty cuddles and love and support from your cat. It is totally OK and fine to have our pet as our best friend! I think that’s why they are given to us.

    As I reread your post it seems to me your most pressing need is someone to talk to, ideally in real time. Although I live in Canada, not the UK, I suspect that through the charity that hosts this website, if you were to contact them, you would be able to find a telephone support line where, free of charge, you could phone and gain support, potentially even 24 hours a day if you were in crisis. I believe the UK, like Canada, has a government funded health system, and a relatively strong social safety net, so such a service is likely more easily accessed than it might appear.

    I know telephone support is not the same thing as in person support, not that we are really getting the latter right now due to the pandemic, but phone support is surprisingly soothing. I have used it myself and it was invaluable.

    I would recommend simply starting with this website, and contacting them through the “contact us” type of page that sites like this usually have. Again, if you reach out to the people who run this site, they will likely be able to refer you to a support line of some sort.

    On a related note, although it might not be ideal, if the support line is not specifically dedicated to autism but the staff members are compassionate and caring, that could still be a great stopgap measure that could help you at this time.

    It’s totally awesome and wonderful that your cat is there for you as your best friend. Please give her a cuddle from Canada for me. I’ll pet my big tabby cat Lily in honour of your cat as I think of you both and send you supportive thoughts. 


    Please keep posting on here, anytime you need us! I recently joined this site and it feels so good to have such supportive community. Blush

    Elizabeth

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  • Hi, Morgan: Blush

    I’m dictating this with dictation software, so please excuse any spelling mistakes or words that seem completely out of place. :-) Just sipping coffee as I sit here with my little dog and my heart goes out to you after I read your post.

    Thanks for your post and your total honesty in it. I can’t speak for anyone else but I just want you to know that your post, to me, is exactly the reason we have this community and can share and gain support from others. I hope you’re feeling better today and that you’re getting lots of kitty cuddles and love and support from your cat. It is totally OK and fine to have our pet as our best friend! I think that’s why they are given to us.

    As I reread your post it seems to me your most pressing need is someone to talk to, ideally in real time. Although I live in Canada, not the UK, I suspect that through the charity that hosts this website, if you were to contact them, you would be able to find a telephone support line where, free of charge, you could phone and gain support, potentially even 24 hours a day if you were in crisis. I believe the UK, like Canada, has a government funded health system, and a relatively strong social safety net, so such a service is likely more easily accessed than it might appear.

    I know telephone support is not the same thing as in person support, not that we are really getting the latter right now due to the pandemic, but phone support is surprisingly soothing. I have used it myself and it was invaluable.

    I would recommend simply starting with this website, and contacting them through the “contact us” type of page that sites like this usually have. Again, if you reach out to the people who run this site, they will likely be able to refer you to a support line of some sort.

    On a related note, although it might not be ideal, if the support line is not specifically dedicated to autism but the staff members are compassionate and caring, that could still be a great stopgap measure that could help you at this time.

    It’s totally awesome and wonderful that your cat is there for you as your best friend. Please give her a cuddle from Canada for me. I’ll pet my big tabby cat Lily in honour of your cat as I think of you both and send you supportive thoughts. 


    Please keep posting on here, anytime you need us! I recently joined this site and it feels so good to have such supportive community. Blush

    Elizabeth

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