People, people, people

People are trouble, meeting with people is hell, talking to people exhausting.

Any thoughts on how to engage with people without fear, stress and anxiety. ? I seem to think that something is going to happen to me. A simple meeting in time,, an appointment has me up the wall, stressed. It is as if they have control of my life,, and I therefore can not move, run or fight. I see people as hell, animals and demons.              :(( Does any else hate the world and people, especially groups of people.

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  • I think it annoys me personally how much people try to deny any association with the animal kingdom. I rely heavily on my senses and instincts, because whether I like it or not, in a public environment, I am prey. I'm hyperaware of others actions, of people getting too close, of stray glances, of anyone seeming to move deliberately towards me etc etc.In this state I'm usually tense, nervous, slightly distressed and actively avoid any eye contact.

    At times in places where I feel comfortable, I switch to a predatory mode, meaning I'm confident enough to act as though I own the territory/area (my room, certain tables or chairs I regularily use) and will defend it if necessary. I will walk about, move subtly closer to people I feel are invading said territory, which makes them subconciously move away, and generally act as though I have every right in the world to be in that specific place, while implying they don't (within reason, I rarely outright ask people to leave). This can include looking directly at someone and making eye contact until they look away/move away.

    This is the result of humans being omnivores, meaning we switch between predator and prey instinctively depending on our environments and situation. With my friends who I trust (my 'pack/herd') I switch between prey and predator depending on how the others are acting. If they are relaxed and actively moving through crowds without moving out of others way, I feel we are more of a pack. And when they stick tightly together, or seem nervous, I feel we form a herd.

    Whichever 'role' they adopt (seemingly unintentionally), I also take on the behaviours as well, although I'm often protective of them as I seem to always end up being the decision maker/leader. And they don't even seem to notice my 'strange' behaviour, meaning subconciously, they also register my behaviour as natural and instinctive.

    I wish there were more studies done into this sort of behaviour readily available to the public, it'd be interesting to see humans analysed as one would analyse any other creature on the planet.

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  • I think it annoys me personally how much people try to deny any association with the animal kingdom. I rely heavily on my senses and instincts, because whether I like it or not, in a public environment, I am prey. I'm hyperaware of others actions, of people getting too close, of stray glances, of anyone seeming to move deliberately towards me etc etc.In this state I'm usually tense, nervous, slightly distressed and actively avoid any eye contact.

    At times in places where I feel comfortable, I switch to a predatory mode, meaning I'm confident enough to act as though I own the territory/area (my room, certain tables or chairs I regularily use) and will defend it if necessary. I will walk about, move subtly closer to people I feel are invading said territory, which makes them subconciously move away, and generally act as though I have every right in the world to be in that specific place, while implying they don't (within reason, I rarely outright ask people to leave). This can include looking directly at someone and making eye contact until they look away/move away.

    This is the result of humans being omnivores, meaning we switch between predator and prey instinctively depending on our environments and situation. With my friends who I trust (my 'pack/herd') I switch between prey and predator depending on how the others are acting. If they are relaxed and actively moving through crowds without moving out of others way, I feel we are more of a pack. And when they stick tightly together, or seem nervous, I feel we form a herd.

    Whichever 'role' they adopt (seemingly unintentionally), I also take on the behaviours as well, although I'm often protective of them as I seem to always end up being the decision maker/leader. And they don't even seem to notice my 'strange' behaviour, meaning subconciously, they also register my behaviour as natural and instinctive.

    I wish there were more studies done into this sort of behaviour readily available to the public, it'd be interesting to see humans analysed as one would analyse any other creature on the planet.

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