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Isolation

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Like a lot of people right now, I am struggling with being (even more than normal), very isolated. I think being on the spectrum does make it harder. 

Everyone's life is difficult, right now. Some people have had to cope with astonishingly difficult situations. So I feel really guilty having a bit of moan. But I still feel the need to voice somewhere.

I normally don't have a lot of contact with people anyway, to be honest. But I did socialize within local autism groups. This is no longer possible. 

I go days, or weeks, without having a conversation with anyone. To be honest, it is driving me out my head. I get so stressed I find myself talking aloud, sometimes in public.

What I want to know is, how do other people cope, at the moment, with the isolation. I would appreciate your comments.

Thanks.

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  • I've really struggled with this this year.

    Right now, I'm coping by basically giving up. I've embraced the depression element. I've re-defined myself as being utterly alone. I watch films about loneliness, I listen to music that celebrates being alone. That gives me a lot more comfort right now than trying to fight against loneliness/isolation.

    Earlier this year, I tried 'fighting against' the loneliness and that's like fighting against a brick wall. It was just me getting mentally bruised.

    Indulging in loneliness and despair has made life more comfortable. It's weird how doing things counterintuitively sometimes makes things better (or at least easier to deal with).

    This approach might not work for everyone, but it's stopped me going out of my mind.

  • in reply to calmerchameleon

    Hi,

    I'm glad your approach has given you some comfort. I wonder if by coming on this forum you feel less alone. As @aide said we are all in the same boat. I think sometimes our help starts when we reach out and admit our feelings of being alone. Take care

  • in reply to JK2019

    I wouldn't be able to say I am actually 'utterly alone' but I need to 'embrace being alone' and the feeling of it - because sometimes it happens for prolonged spaces of time. Spending a night awake with no-one around can feel like weeks in a way.

    When embracing the alone. When a cup of warm water from the kettle starts to be your friend, one has achieved a change in mindset that welcomes the loneliness. Loneliness that you can wrap around oneself like a blanket.

    And, when change finally comes about, I'll love to hug and talk and drink and dance with lots of people around (hopefully) but for now, it's the desert of isolation that's around for most hours of my day.

    The forum here was helpful when I was fighting against loneliness. Now, it's just here. I can take or leave it. I mainly like to help others see the world a slightly different way sometimes, and I guess that's why I've put a post or two in today.

    Anxiety is an amplifier. Depression is a dampener. If the anxiety gets unbearable, that's when depression can sometimes kick in to help out. It's like natural valium. Just gives a little bit of numbness. I appreciate depression isn't easy if holding down a job, family or relationship though.

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  • in reply to JK2019

    I wouldn't be able to say I am actually 'utterly alone' but I need to 'embrace being alone' and the feeling of it - because sometimes it happens for prolonged spaces of time. Spending a night awake with no-one around can feel like weeks in a way.

    When embracing the alone. When a cup of warm water from the kettle starts to be your friend, one has achieved a change in mindset that welcomes the loneliness. Loneliness that you can wrap around oneself like a blanket.

    And, when change finally comes about, I'll love to hug and talk and drink and dance with lots of people around (hopefully) but for now, it's the desert of isolation that's around for most hours of my day.

    The forum here was helpful when I was fighting against loneliness. Now, it's just here. I can take or leave it. I mainly like to help others see the world a slightly different way sometimes, and I guess that's why I've put a post or two in today.

    Anxiety is an amplifier. Depression is a dampener. If the anxiety gets unbearable, that's when depression can sometimes kick in to help out. It's like natural valium. Just gives a little bit of numbness. I appreciate depression isn't easy if holding down a job, family or relationship though.

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