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Got my assessment next week...why on earth am I doing this

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.....I've deliberated for a number of years and finally, for various reasons,  took the decision to book it.

It's next week. I'm going through cycles of.....I definitely am autistic / I'm definitely not / I'm looking forward to the assessment / why on earth am I putting myself through this / it'll give me answers / who the hell do I think I am? / it'll help explain my life / I don't know which outcome is more scary/ I don't want a label, I want to cancel the assessment because of this.

The last one is really bothering me right now.  So I've got this far in life and haven't held myself back and I'm just worried if I get a label it'll give me an excuse not to do things where in the past, I've previously pushed myself. (Altho at a cost to my mental health).

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  • Well done!!

    I can only speak from personal experience but i went into my assessment agnostic. I still did not really understand what autism was.

    Have you got anyone going into your assessment with you? I don't know whether this is relevant to your situation but when i went to the neurological centre for the assessment they asked if a person who has known me from childhood to accompany me. I had my dad with me and they were able to interview him as well as me. It was very insightful for my dad too because he realised from the assessment not only my differences to other children, but also recognised autistic tendencies in himself.

    I know everyone has different opinions on whether its helpful to have a label. for me it has really helped me to get extra support and benefits that i just wouldn't get if i was undiagnosed. I would still have the same issues and struggles but i would be worse off because i wouldn't be able to mask my symptoms for long and i found that being able to understand autism better it helps me to understand where my difficulties are and as a result i have been much more direct and specific when asking for help. I would say this has been one of the bigger benefits.

    I hope your assessment goes well next week. Take care

  • in reply to JK2019

    They initially said to bring someone but I can't face talking to my parents about it. I dont even know if I would tell them if I got the diagnosis. I'm very similar to my dad. I just wouldn't want to bugger him up if he recognised the tendencies in himself. He overthings like I do and I just dont want to put him through that.

    It's intersting what you say about extra support. I don't know exactly what exgtra support I could get....I'm supported at work for anxiety. I think it's more about going forward and having an understanding of myself for the future and like you say, to be more direct in asking for help. I think that's important cos you have the dagnosis to back you up if you need things.

  • in reply to Deleted User

    Hi, hope you’re okay. We were chatting by PM- I’m NW too and similar job. I’ve had to change my user name, so the old profile- the N numbers - I can’t use it anymore. Please can you re-add me as a friend? I can’t add you! 

  • in reply to Beans on Toast

    Were there any surprises? Sorry I haven't added you yet. It's been such a busy week, I keep forgetting when I go on the laptop

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