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Got my assessment next week...why on earth am I doing this

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.....I've deliberated for a number of years and finally, for various reasons,  took the decision to book it.

It's next week. I'm going through cycles of.....I definitely am autistic / I'm definitely not / I'm looking forward to the assessment / why on earth am I putting myself through this / it'll give me answers / who the hell do I think I am? / it'll help explain my life / I don't know which outcome is more scary/ I don't want a label, I want to cancel the assessment because of this.

The last one is really bothering me right now.  So I've got this far in life and haven't held myself back and I'm just worried if I get a label it'll give me an excuse not to do things where in the past, I've previously pushed myself. (Altho at a cost to my mental health).

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  • I went through this exact thought pattern but stuck with the assessment because I'd waited for the appointment for 2 years and I would have been so annoyed with myself had I not gone through with it. In the end I got exactly the worst outcome - no diagnosis because they couldn't speak to my parents, so I put myself through a really stressful 4 months process with several appointments and don't know anymore than I did going in. Hopefully it'll be different for you

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  • I went through this exact thought pattern but stuck with the assessment because I'd waited for the appointment for 2 years and I would have been so annoyed with myself had I not gone through with it. In the end I got exactly the worst outcome - no diagnosis because they couldn't speak to my parents, so I put myself through a really stressful 4 months process with several appointments and don't know anymore than I did going in. Hopefully it'll be different for you

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  • in reply to Tigerbalm

    The place I'm going to seems very respectable - it was recommended from this NAS website and I've seen a few other instances of people on here using them.

    I'm sorry you didn't have the experience you expected They initially mentioned a parent being present for the developmental history but then when I emailed recently to ask for advice about speaking to my parents about it, they said I don't need anyone present. I've read on here of people who have been diagnosted without parents being present. I feel it would be better to have them there, but I just don't know how to broach the subejct with them. I suppose if the assessor needs more info, I can speak to my parents and feed the info back to them.

  • in reply to Tigerbalm

    That’s their problem as surely they could ensure they had contact details for your parents. I feel lots of psychologists are using this just to earn money but don’t want to get into discussions about their report