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Personality and masking

Kate

If you spend so long masking your personality by copying others, when you finally find out you were masking all that time, how do you go about finding your own personality? I hope this makes sense 

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  • I’m still figuring this out myself, but I realised I was looking at it too b&w, like there was the real autistic me and then the fake mask, and I wanted to figure which was which. I decided instead to try to keep/add whatever I like/enjoy/need/etc., and perhaps start dropping what I don’t, never mind whether it is part of the mask or not. Like, I enjoy some of my masking that helps me to socialise, so I’ll carry on with that. But I realised I was stopping myself from stimming even on my own, so I’ve started actively doing that. Hope this helps.

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  • I’m still figuring this out myself, but I realised I was looking at it too b&w, like there was the real autistic me and then the fake mask, and I wanted to figure which was which. I decided instead to try to keep/add whatever I like/enjoy/need/etc., and perhaps start dropping what I don’t, never mind whether it is part of the mask or not. Like, I enjoy some of my masking that helps me to socialise, so I’ll carry on with that. But I realised I was stopping myself from stimming even on my own, so I’ve started actively doing that. Hope this helps.

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