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anyone else have problems not being able to stop staring at someone's physical features?

raspberrypie

i was with some people, and someone was sitting there, and their bare leg was showing cause the pant leg was up - just above the sock... i was just staring at this person's bare lower leg - and couldn't stop. i figure people notice i'm doing that -- it must be so obvious, .... and i'd imagine really rude. but i find myself staring at people - ok, generally women, but also men... i'll just find some feature, often a 'flaw', just magnetic for my eyes... it's as though my brain just gets hijacked. anyone else? it doesn't happen often, but often enough. it's rude, but i don't mean to be..........  i figure it's one of the things i do that really sabotages relationships. idk what this is related to, in my asd....all i can come up with is - i'm pretty anxious and scared around people, even people i no, and i just..i guess stare........... it's like i objectify or distance them somehow, to this 'other' being...........

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  • thanks for the replies... they're v helpful... sometimes i feel i am nervous when talking to someone, and may stare at - for example, once, at how white her apartment was, and just kind of marveling at it. maybe that had a calming effect on me, taking me away from having to uh - think about talking and listening and gaze. i guess it was shifting from unpleasant: conversing with person to pleasant: gazing at something that grabbed me. i don't think she liked that....  other times though, i feel i'm v superficial, taking in clothes, physical features, good and bad, and that that's how i form an opinion of the person opp me. since i feel i can lack empathy and the ability to 'read' folk, i guess i've fallen onto that as my not reliable way to judge people....

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  • thanks for the replies... they're v helpful... sometimes i feel i am nervous when talking to someone, and may stare at - for example, once, at how white her apartment was, and just kind of marveling at it. maybe that had a calming effect on me, taking me away from having to uh - think about talking and listening and gaze. i guess it was shifting from unpleasant: conversing with person to pleasant: gazing at something that grabbed me. i don't think she liked that....  other times though, i feel i'm v superficial, taking in clothes, physical features, good and bad, and that that's how i form an opinion of the person opp me. since i feel i can lack empathy and the ability to 'read' folk, i guess i've fallen onto that as my not reliable way to judge people....

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