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Do higher functioning people want to deny lower functioning exist?

Roswell

I think perhaps they do. I would say I'm more on the lower-functioning end of the spectrum. Despite being intelligent enough I can barely make eye contact with people and have no friends where I live, and have never had a proper romantic relationship.

I went to an Autistic social group and definitely felt excluded for having more support needs than the others. I often feel left out on Twitter too. I have 34 followers there, mostly Autistic people, but very rarely do any of them reply to anything I put on. Most of them are more successful than me, have more friends, more of a life, etc. 

It often feels I'm pissing in the wind, getting nowhere. 

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  • I find your writing on here perfectly 'high functioning' so I'm not sure what you mean.    From your past posts, I feel a lot of your issues come from your environment and the lack of people to relate to to form a friendship group or a place where you can be comfortable to socialise without getting overloaded.

    I've never found eye-contact to be an issue with nerdy friends talking about a 'thing' like a car engine where everyone is looking at oily bits rather than each other.      Do you have any nerdy interests that would enable that type of passive friendships?     Those nerdy type of hobbies seem to encourage lots of Auties & Aspies as it's more about the knowledge and enthusiasm being valued over social skills.   In those activities, you just being there and maybe helping out would likely gain the acceptance you want.

    Measuring success is very difficult - most people brag or exaggerate their deeds so it's really hard to measure every aspect of their lives - successful in one area may not equate to successful in everything.

    Twitter is not real - people click to follow thousands of random people but rarely bother to un-follow - so your followers may not even exist any more - just a tag with no-one ever looking or signing on.   I've never even tried social media - from what I've seen it seems very NT and full of lies.

  • in reply to Plastic

    I have some academic sort of nerdy interests.

    I like history, sociology, economics, philosophy, literature. Maybe there's more potential to make friends with those interests. I will try searching for people like that and writing to them.

    When I was talking about functioning it relates to how well someone can handle social situations. I am just very poor at it.

    I'm upset that after emailing many university professors with a magazine article I got published about Autism and romance none of them have replied. It does seem a lot of people think they're better than me because I don't have the right connections!

  • in reply to Roswell
    Roswell said:
    I like history, sociology, economics, philosophy, literature. Maybe there's more potential to make friends with those interests.

    I wonder if those subjects are more immediately group confrontational discussions where I'd find it hard to judge the level and tone of the others to work out where to pitch my input & responses.       I would come across very badly in that environment.    I'm more at home talking about aeroplanes or Lego.   Smiley

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  • in reply to Roswell
    Roswell said:
    I like history, sociology, economics, philosophy, literature. Maybe there's more potential to make friends with those interests.

    I wonder if those subjects are more immediately group confrontational discussions where I'd find it hard to judge the level and tone of the others to work out where to pitch my input & responses.       I would come across very badly in that environment.    I'm more at home talking about aeroplanes or Lego.   Smiley

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