Hi everyone,
I've got this older brother who is verbal and physical abusive,he is in his mid thirty's while i am in my mid twenties. long story short my bedroom is located in a static mobile home with no toilet and kitchen facilities on my parents property. I have to enter main property to use kitchen and bathrooms facilities. my parents have decided to invite the whole family for a BBQ this Sunday including him and his wife and because of a previous situation with them both when i was working with my brother on that livestock farm which resulted in a mental breakdown.
I don't want him anywhere near me because what he has done to me, other people and animals.
what he was trying to do to me when he orchestrated that i work with him on a live stock farm .by orchestrate he was manipulating me into submission to work with him with a range of tactics ranging from causing sensory discomfort or creating problems at home with our mum by making stuff up and making up evidence. i have witnessed him do some disturbing thing over the years deliberately inflicting harm on animals and even sexually assaulting my step sister who was minor at the time and year younger than me. she excluded from the BBQ but ill be forced to engage with everyone but here is the problem. everyone believes what he says and him and his wife like causing drama and they will manipulate information to get the reaction they want.
he will deliberately try and cause me to have an autism meltdown and i don't want to be cruel to my nephew from another brother by locking myself away from everyone. my nephew and i have a weird uncle and nephew bond and when thing become overwhelming for us both when we have family events round my parents he hangs out in the static mobile playing computer games with me. My nephew avoids him because he will make him meltdown too.
But seriously, i don't understand why my other family members put up with my brother, he's not just got something against me but also our older sister and some of the things he says is completely out of order. recently he has being going on about inheritance and our mother isn't dead yet, he constantly asking our mother for money and he goes on the attack if my mother does anything for me, my sister or my two other brothers.
He also manipulates people in to doubting my autism diagnosis, Dyslexia and Dyspraxia and even convinced our mother that i am not showing signs of Attention Deficit Disorder and its my sister that has to call him out on it. he also got something to say on my inability to drive and like many other individuals on this platform i cant stay balanced on a bike and lost the skill completely since being in an accident with a car on a push bike.I don't understand why he keeps making comments considering that our mother paid for his lesson, took him out driving and didn't even attempt to get a job until the age of twenty four and spent all his benefit money on video games.
Sorry, but honestly i put him to shame because i attended college three times a week and rest of the week i worked 8 hour days until i was eighteen, i have attempted a apprenticeship, i have been on countless schemes ranging from princes trust to employment course, volunteered and have had more job that he has ever had and because my issues result in my trial period being extended or managed out and i have always paid my parents board for living with them, i even pay for the internet, water bill and TV licence for the entire household their is six of us where he didn't even pay for his own food. why can't he just let me be.
