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A question for those diagnosed as adults

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I don't yet have a diagnosis, positive or negative, but I'm finding lately that I'm very selfconscious about things that I do and tendencies that I have that possibly reflect Asperger's. It's not that I wasn't aware of them before, but I just brushed them aside as quirks. I know that nothing has changed, but for some reason, they feel different now that I have a suspicion, and honestly, at times it kind of upsets me.

For those of you who were diagnosed as adults, did you have any feelings like that, and if so, how did you deal with them?

  • Yes, it was exactly the same, and continues after diagnosis for me.

    Best of luck.

  • Thank you all for the input. I'm glad I found this place because it amazes me how nice it is to converse with people who know and understand the experiences. It makes it feel a lot less lonely.

  • I’m in a similar place to you. Things I did in the past feel very different now. It annoys my partner that I could do things in the past, but struggle now. I guess for her nothing has changed, but for me everything has.

    I’m currently waiting for diagnosis. My hope is that once I have answers I can find solutions that are more effective.

  • Hello, I'm 47 and was diagnosed about 3 years ago. I did a grave stupidity, I stopped taking medication right after receiving the diagnosis. Short after my mother had an epileptic attack in my house, and with the situation of her in the hospital, I had a nervous breakdown. I started taking another type of medication and got everything up and running again... but from my stupidity you can learn a very important lesson, when you take the diagnosis, don't abruptly change anything in your day to day life, read a lot, think a lot, relive the past.

    I think the most important thing I learned from the diagnosis is that I can't trust myself for making certain judgements of people. So I need to shut down these judgments and take a neutral stance. It's like a broken speedometer in a car, better to cover it with some tape so it doesn't distract you. 

    It's like a mourning process, it takes time, after a while you investigated enough, you regain confidence that what worked before still works today and you move on, but on the spot it hits you harder than you think.

    I also like to compare it to Darwin's theory of evolution... with it everything makes sense in nature, but god died. 

  • For me (diagnosed about 4 years ago), while I am sometimes self-conscious, I find that it's outweighed by the 'ah' moments ('ah, that's why I responded in that way to that siyuation' etc) and a general sense of being able to connect the dots a lot more. I'm certainly more aware of my traits, behaviours, triggers etc

    But it took me time to get to that state. Becoming aware / being diagnosed is a positive but also a bit of a goodbye (at least in part) to masking and/or working hard to 'fit in and that can be a process for some which is almost akin to grief.