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Feeling disorientated

HonestAspy

Hi everyone

I'm a 23 year old high functioning Aspergers male and lately I've found life quite challenging.

I see in black and white by nature but the world is made up of so much grey and its so hard to go against my natural instincts in order to better fit in and have a less stressful life.

I just wondered if anyone else experiences this and if so do they have any advice.

Thanks for reading, hope to hear back soon

  • Grey can usually be a good thing, because it is balance.

  • in reply to Former Member

    Thank you, its just nice to know I'm not alone in feeling this way to be honest. Thats the thing I find hardest about being Aspy sometimes, the feeling that I'm made wrong or the odd one out. Its nice to know I'm not  :)

  • in reply to aidie

    Thank you so much, that is truly insightful advice and the river analogy has really connected with me.

    I would be grateful for any book reccomendations you might have as you obviously have a strong understanding on this and if its not too personal I would genuinely like to know what your mantra is as I often struggle to find one that works for me.

    Thanks again for your advice though.

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    Former Member in reply to aidie

    That's really good advice, and common to so many of us, so helpful. To the original questioner: You're not alone in thinking these things. Sending you good wishes. 

  • yes this is one of the things i struggle with I have rules of right and wromg in my head which are hard to go against.  I think with autistic people this is a hard issue to deal with. NT also have this issue but it doent seem to be so upsetting.  It is called dualistic thinking and you, like me have to practice being in the middle in the grey area.  I have read alot about this in buddhist/Dao writngs and I am still working on it.

    It takes so much effort  to penetrate the autistic mind. Its all about watching and ignoring thoughts.  I challenge and ignore some of the thoughts I suspect to be too Black/white now.  ( doesnt always work so I have a Mantra ready to repeat in my head for 10 minutes )

    There is also an element of going with the flow. Think of these Black/White thoughts as rock in a river. The river is your life in a flow, If you hold onto a rock you get stuck fighting with the river. It is better to let go and go with the flow ( this is The Tao / The Dao / "The Way ). 

    just reading this will have shifted your mind a tiny bit

    :)