Adult Diagnosis

I'm 47, got the diagnosis about 3 years ago, paid for it myself, I didn't expect I had it, but there you go.

I'm not very good with authority, but in my current job I got better at it. My previous scrummaster, I had a horrible working-relationship with that guy. I changed jobs, and now I try to be more neutral, I work more in IT, but for the Finance department. I'm an engineer in agriculture. I like to refer to these studies as rocket salad science. But somehow programming computers and interpreting accounting info are my cup of tea.

I would advise you this: get a psychologist if you can afford it, once a week. If it's a good match, this person will give you alternatives to certain thinking patterns, It works wonders with me. I also take escitalopram, but the psychologist often helps in seeing things in a different way, so I avoid getting stuck in pointless fights. Best advise in my new job is also she helped me see that often I would apologise for something without being accused, that's often something that draws attention, and it's often unwarranted. 

My sarcastical sense of humour also tends to hurt my prospects, some of my favourite expressions in my previous job:

- I work 4 fifths, but I show up every day... (jokingly admitting that I wasn't working that hard)

- I don't like managers that don't live up to my standards...

- to my boss before that (a woman): you're a good secretary, so I like you as my boss... not good... although I did mean it as a compliment...

- I don't like it here, so I became internal (before I worked for an external company, being internal meant a lot more holiday (12 days more) and working 37 hours a week iso 40. So that triggered my funnybone. Later we also got 2 days telework where externals had only one, so I joked, internals are the ones that are rarely ever here.

I'm afraid at around 40, some sooner, some later, people like us here seem to come to a point of exhaustion, we used to get by on musclepower, but there's actually no real reason to take life so much like a war. I can now afford to see life as a victory (children are 15 and 18, house is paid for, job is ok, ...) so I see life as just running victory laps, it helps a lot in reducing the stress, and I still get things done. If I would get unemployed, I would still survive ...

I'm 47, got the diagnosis about 3 years ago, paid for it myself, I didn't expect I had it, but there you go.

I'm not very good with authority, but in my current job I got better at it. My previous scrummaster, I had a horrible working-relationship with that guy. I changed jobs, and now I try to be more neutral, I work more in IT, but for the Finance department. I'm an engineer in agriculture. I like to refer to these studies as rocket salad science. But somehow programming computers and interpreting accounting info are my cup of tea.

I would advise you this: get a psychologist if you can afford it, once a week. If it's a good match, this person will give you alternatives to certain thinking patterns, It works wonders with me. I also take escitalopram, but the psychologist often helps in seeing things in a different way, so I avoid getting stuck in pointless fights. Best advise in my new job is also she helped me see that often I would apologise for something without being accused, that's often something that draws attention, and it's often unwarranted. 

My sarcastical sense of humour also tends to hurt my prospects, some of my favourite expressions in my previous job:

- I work 4 fifths, but I show up every day... (jokingly admitting that I wasn't working that hard)

- I don't like managers that don't live up to my standards...

- to my boss before that (a woman): you're a good secretary, so I like you as my boss... not good... although I did mean it as a compliment...

- I don't like it here, so I became internal (before I worked for an external company, being internal meant a lot more holiday (12 days more) and working 37 hours a week iso 40. So that triggered my funnybone. Later we also got 2 days telework where externals had only one, so I joked, internals are the ones that are rarely ever here.

I'm afraid at around 40, some sooner, some later, people like us here seem to come to a point of exhaustion, we used to get by on musclepower, but there's actually no real reason to take life so much like a war. I can now afford to see life as a victory (children are 15 and 18, house is paid for, job is ok, ...) so I see life as just running victory laps, it helps a lot in reducing the stress, and I still get things done. If I would get unemployed, I would still survive ...