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There so much I want to say but just can't

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I want to explane to people what going on but my brain will not allow me to. This is one those times when want to explain something but just can't. It like realy want to and them more I try to the less I can do it.. I am getting me self tied up with all these rules.

My brain telling me that "the others" will find it all trivial.

PS "the others" is my way of saying NT's.

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  • I think I'd call this 'brain lock'.    You rehearse hundreds of important things that need to be said  in the moment but the opportunity never arises where it would flow naturally and make sense to anyone.   What normally happens is something triggers you to say something and it all gets jumbled up between your brain and your mouth - so nothing comes out - it just all crashes together in your brain.   

    I think Symon is right - try putting some of the thoughts down on paper as they occur to you - better still a Word document that you can update and refine until it makes proper sense so it can be understood by the people you want to tell.

    I spent a lot of time writing such a document at work when I was going to 'out' myself - I was able to make it sound positive rather than a list of complaints.

    BTW - NTs are notoriously self-absorbed so probably aren't really interested in you unless you directly impact upon their lives.  

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  • I think I'd call this 'brain lock'.    You rehearse hundreds of important things that need to be said  in the moment but the opportunity never arises where it would flow naturally and make sense to anyone.   What normally happens is something triggers you to say something and it all gets jumbled up between your brain and your mouth - so nothing comes out - it just all crashes together in your brain.   

    I think Symon is right - try putting some of the thoughts down on paper as they occur to you - better still a Word document that you can update and refine until it makes proper sense so it can be understood by the people you want to tell.

    I spent a lot of time writing such a document at work when I was going to 'out' myself - I was able to make it sound positive rather than a list of complaints.

    BTW - NTs are notoriously self-absorbed so probably aren't really interested in you unless you directly impact upon their lives.  

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