I am dating a man with aspergers and ADHD. I have aspergers myself.
We dated first last year and I really liked him but his ADHD ruined things because he was speeding everything so much, talking about the future after like 3 weeks and moving very fast. This is an issue he was aware of and he didn't mind me pointing out when things were happening too fast but he had a very hard time slowing down. Eventually we just gave up and 6 months passed then we started talking again. He had then been given medication for his ADHD he really seemed a lot calmer in so many ways and my feelings for him increased so much I fell in love with him and things went really well between us. Then all of a sudden he stops taking the medication because it gives him bad side effects.
He's now once again impatient and rushing things. I am a person who needs to take things slowly and on top of my aspergers I suffer from anixety so getting rushed is not something I can cope with. He told me a few weeks ago that if he's rushing things again he wants me to tell him because he can't tell when he's doing it. Aside from this affecting our relationship to each other very negatively it's hurting him too. He's already worn himself out once due to his ADHD and couldn't work for a long time afterwards. It makes him push himself and take on way more than he can handle and he doesn't even notice until it's too late. Plus he's talked about wanting to be able to just calm down and not feel a constant need to be active.
Should I bring up starting a new medication with him and how do I bring it up the right way? I don't want to sound like i'm criticizing the way he is now even though he's not one to get upset from valid criticism but it feels like a sensitive topic.
