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How does one determine when to ask questions?

Jeffrey

A friend suggested that I find answers for the following questions in a forum. This was the first forum I found.

How does one know when to just accept what someone says to make them happy, and when to question what someone says?

How does one determine when to make assumptions about what someone means, and when to ask for clarification on their meaning?

I have previously just asked questions because I hate making assumptions, but I have been recently told that people do not like answering too many questions. "Too many," is too vague for me to be able to do anything about it.

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  • Usually certain expressions are only used in a certain context. This is something I'm blind for.

    I told a woman once: 'why don't you ask her yourself'... and this was considered a very rude thing... I should have said: 'she still handles these things herself, you should ask her'... 

    In that sense usually an NT person would understand the meaning of a certain phrase without mistake, while you might not get it right away. I'm sure you'll find here people willing to help with guessing the right meaning of certain phrases so you can build up your knowledge. 

    An extreme example, they'll say: 'get out of here'... and it means: 'that's an unbelievable story, who would have thought.'... 

    I learned myself not to go 'really?' when somebody tells me something just to tease me or bully, because I'm very gullible. I also explained this to my son, if somebody told him a story, and he didn't really believe it, just to keep a straight face that could mean anything... a 'yeah, ok...' and then come and check with us, his parents... 

    Fact is, if you grasp this better, some people will probably stop talking to you alltogether, but that's more a blessing than a curse. 

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  • Usually certain expressions are only used in a certain context. This is something I'm blind for.

    I told a woman once: 'why don't you ask her yourself'... and this was considered a very rude thing... I should have said: 'she still handles these things herself, you should ask her'... 

    In that sense usually an NT person would understand the meaning of a certain phrase without mistake, while you might not get it right away. I'm sure you'll find here people willing to help with guessing the right meaning of certain phrases so you can build up your knowledge. 

    An extreme example, they'll say: 'get out of here'... and it means: 'that's an unbelievable story, who would have thought.'... 

    I learned myself not to go 'really?' when somebody tells me something just to tease me or bully, because I'm very gullible. I also explained this to my son, if somebody told him a story, and he didn't really believe it, just to keep a straight face that could mean anything... a 'yeah, ok...' and then come and check with us, his parents... 

    Fact is, if you grasp this better, some people will probably stop talking to you alltogether, but that's more a blessing than a curse. 

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