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Im sure this has been brought up before, but does anyone go over and over a conversation youve had?

AlwaysIS

Gotten in from talking to both neighbours, and have spent the last 1hr going over how i came across to them.

Its a horrid sudden deep pit feeling i get from this....

At the time of speaking i knew i was talking quickly and bordering lecture mode...lol but did reign it in and allow them to talk...but once its all over....its as if i have no idea how i actually did come across...A complete head job on myself to be honest!  utter doubts .This nonsense drains the life out of me!

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  • Sounds familiar. It's why I couldn't sleep after talking to my brother in law, that one really brought up bad stuff in my mind. 

    Now it's gotten a lot better, probably also because I have this different mindset, more towards neutral. I realise now that most people are not there to make my life more difficult, but they try to make their lifes easier. Now friends are people who do this for you and you do this for them, making the life easier. It doesn't mean that when somebody does things for you that you didn't ask for, you are obliged to do stuff for them in return, but very often this is the style of discussions that get me stuck... people telling me: hey, I helped you, why didn't you help me... I didn't ask for help, you just imposed it... is this a trap? that kind of reasoning gets me really worked up.

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  • Sounds familiar. It's why I couldn't sleep after talking to my brother in law, that one really brought up bad stuff in my mind. 

    Now it's gotten a lot better, probably also because I have this different mindset, more towards neutral. I realise now that most people are not there to make my life more difficult, but they try to make their lifes easier. Now friends are people who do this for you and you do this for them, making the life easier. It doesn't mean that when somebody does things for you that you didn't ask for, you are obliged to do stuff for them in return, but very often this is the style of discussions that get me stuck... people telling me: hey, I helped you, why didn't you help me... I didn't ask for help, you just imposed it... is this a trap? that kind of reasoning gets me really worked up.

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