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Is this forum indicative of the wider Aspie public?

Midlands Monkey
over 4 years ago

Hi. Joined a few weeks ago after self-identifying, and have begun the process of an official diagnosis a few days ago. 

I am pretty convinced that I have Aspergers/HFA, but after reading the posts on here I feel that perhaps my symptoms are not as bad as I thought. Relationships have suffered throughout my life, I stim, have anxiety issues... but is it crippling? No. 

I lead a relatively normal life. Married with a child. Successful career. But I always put my foot in it. Say inappropriate things. My tics are discreet but ongoing. Man of very few friends. Can be obsessive. Scored 44 on ASQ and 10 on EQ. But then I read some of the posts on here...

So - are the issues many of you face on here typical for somebody suffering from Aspergers? I read about suicidal thoughts, being afraid of the outside world, crippling anxiety, and an inkling of doubt starts to creep in!

Parents
  • over 4 years ago

    I'm diagnosed. Still I'm married, have two children (15 and 18) and have a well paid job. 

    I seem to run into same obstacles as you, saying the wrong things, few friends, not knowing what to say when in smalltalk-situations, usually I have one or two things that I'm really interested in and try to know all about.

    I also prefer to stay home in the weekends, vacations are also not really my thing. 

    Well met. 

    The diagnosis is not something to go light about. Take good preparations about it. Once it's confirmed, it still takes a bit of a mourning process. The diagnosis will also show some areas where you're stronger. I seem to be adequate at learning (not super), medium at planning ahead (clumsy, chaotic, …), but very high score on spatial thinking and language, and just an average memory... I have a job that combines finance/accounting and IT, heaven for me.

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  • over 4 years ago

    I'm diagnosed. Still I'm married, have two children (15 and 18) and have a well paid job. 

    I seem to run into same obstacles as you, saying the wrong things, few friends, not knowing what to say when in smalltalk-situations, usually I have one or two things that I'm really interested in and try to know all about.

    I also prefer to stay home in the weekends, vacations are also not really my thing. 

    Well met. 

    The diagnosis is not something to go light about. Take good preparations about it. Once it's confirmed, it still takes a bit of a mourning process. The diagnosis will also show some areas where you're stronger. I seem to be adequate at learning (not super), medium at planning ahead (clumsy, chaotic, …), but very high score on spatial thinking and language, and just an average memory... I have a job that combines finance/accounting and IT, heaven for me.

Children
  • over 4 years ago in reply to MDC

    Thank you for the 'comforting' comments, and the advice. You sound very similar to me.

    Oh don't you worry, I will go in prepared. I have begun putting together two separate notebooks split by the two DSM-5 categories with traits and examples listed against the subcategories. Preparedness is the one thing many of us are renowned for once we become obsessed by a subject!