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Getting lost in school/on paper round/in car

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I remember when I was at school, the bell would go and the other children would get up and shoot off and I would not be able to remember where the next classroom was, I would arrive there after asking for help and the class had already started...

When I had a paper round the other kids would get back to the newsagents an hour before me....

As an adult I get lost in the car, even if the destination is just a few streets away, unless I do it VERY regularly..

Anyone else have this?

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  • This is very familiar to me, and just as Robert mentioned, I too experience the very same kind of repeating and regular dreams/nightmares. Had one again, just last night, and they are VERY regular. I can never find my way home in the dreams. My thoughts on it are that, as the essence of being autistic involves that our "Sense of Self" is referenced to settings, people, places, some of us, more than others learn to cope better in life with extending our comfort zones, and managing outside of the known and familiar places, we're used to. I experience even today, the same as you. I'm Aspie, a high functioning woman, who has managed to run a business on her own, working in the autism/childcare field, but can only function well without losing my way, if things remain more or less the same. I drive but need to be shown how to get from any new place I've not been before from A to B, physically, or my anxiety rises, and this can bring on panic almost, when I lose my way.  eg when they closed a road I was used to taking regularly for Uni in the past, I fell apart trying to get home again. Had to pull over and breathe, phone for assistance and instruction. This was a time prior to the GPS. They say that the Self can essentially disintegrate, and that's how it feels for me, when I'm out of my comfort zone. I have no doubt that we are "referenced", which seems to be the root cause of this issue.

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  • This is very familiar to me, and just as Robert mentioned, I too experience the very same kind of repeating and regular dreams/nightmares. Had one again, just last night, and they are VERY regular. I can never find my way home in the dreams. My thoughts on it are that, as the essence of being autistic involves that our "Sense of Self" is referenced to settings, people, places, some of us, more than others learn to cope better in life with extending our comfort zones, and managing outside of the known and familiar places, we're used to. I experience even today, the same as you. I'm Aspie, a high functioning woman, who has managed to run a business on her own, working in the autism/childcare field, but can only function well without losing my way, if things remain more or less the same. I drive but need to be shown how to get from any new place I've not been before from A to B, physically, or my anxiety rises, and this can bring on panic almost, when I lose my way.  eg when they closed a road I was used to taking regularly for Uni in the past, I fell apart trying to get home again. Had to pull over and breathe, phone for assistance and instruction. This was a time prior to the GPS. They say that the Self can essentially disintegrate, and that's how it feels for me, when I'm out of my comfort zone. I have no doubt that we are "referenced", which seems to be the root cause of this issue.

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