Go F yourself

Hello, every time I suggested discussing planning the day I meet resistance with my wife.

She just I feel , it impacts on me, you have done this you haven't done that, this is wrong that is wrong.

And yes there are things I'm not doing.

So if we plan and budget our time then we can both agree and get resullts and stop getting angry with each other.

She counters with just get on with it, stop making excuses.

If I'm looking after kids, then I have to engage with them and stop them distrupting her going back to bed.

How if im doing that can I get tasks done, house, business admin?

Feels like a block.

So if I tell her this is the plan for tomorrow, what response do i get?

Why is she so resistant to planning?

Or if she's picking me apart and I start having  a disussion of what happened yesterday or today or lets plan tomorrow it propper aggrevates her. I get it I must be doing something

that's causing a trigger in her.

I thank her.

She just wants me to get on with it so no mental load on her. I want to have a discussion and get on same page with her to stop her attacking me.

Any thoughts welcome does anybody else get in these situations?

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  • Hello, are you the person who posted about your wife the other day? I was under the impression she may be struggling and need a break. What was your plan? is that why shes resistant? try and spend some quality time together in the evening when the kids are in bed to relax for a bit (put a film on maybe)try and calm each other down first, then talk in a few days. maybe ask how shes feeling right now, how your feeling. what you both need help with

  • Hi Mouse2 It was, were both struggling, when she's calmer I must try to connect with her and check in.

    I'll be back asap

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